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I feel at ease in the arms of the world now…
There is a song that, for the last several weeks, has been on constant loop in my mind. It’s Amos Lee’s “Arms of a Woman.” In the song, he sings, “I am at ease in the arms of a woman. But most of my days, I spend alone.” Now as widowers, we can all relate…
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Growth and Gain
“From Grieving to Greatness” is what I am calling it. I look in the mirror, and I am not the same man I was two and a half years ago. I have evolved. Please do not get me wrong; I am most definitely still grieving Suzanne and always will. Over these last two and a…
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Decluttering
By Jeff Ziegler Today, I spent part of my day decluttering the kitchen and reorganizing my toolboxes. It was a bit cathartic. I threw a load of things out. And it got me thinking about how cluttered I have been feeling in my mind of late. Clutter is a funny thing. We “collect” knickknacks, and…
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A “Lakota Tradition” About Grieving
WSN: Widower, Wounded, Warrior, Waking and Walking By Jeff Ziegler This subject matter has been doing the rounds on Facebook of late. But it is relevant to what I want to address in this week’s post. It starts like this: “In the Lakota tradition, a person who is grieving is considered most waken, most holy.”…
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Focused Attention
WSN: Widower, Wounded, Warrior, Waking and Walking by Jeff Ziegler I have done a lot of work on myself over the last two years since Suzanne died. This morning, I had a revelation. My attention has been scattered. The revelation came when listening to a podcast about brain science. It dawned on me that I…
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Asking for Help
WSN: Widower, Wounded, Warrior, Waking and Walking by Jeff Ziegler Ever see a movie when the family is driving in the car, and they’re lost? The dad is at the wheel, the wife in the passenger seat, and the kids are in the back? Stress is rising; kids are hungry and bored; the wife asks…
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Accepting Choices
WSN: Widowers, Wounded, Warrior, Waling and Walking by Jeff Ziegler In the last two years, I have made some life-altering tough choices. Initially, I was going to call this post “Bad Decisions”… But “Accepting Choices” seems more appropriate. Dating Especially for my fellow widowers, I want to start with dating. It was one of the…
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Too Much Chaos
WSN-MO: Jeff Ziegler – Widowers, Wounded, Warrior, Waling and Walking Over the last two years, I have found that on numerous occasions, I have “bitten off a lot more than I can chew.” It has been challenging to take on some things I have chosen to do—mostly to distract myself from my grief, making it…
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A Clean House
Suzanne used to tell me that she enjoyed cleaning the house. She would say, “I don’t mind cleaning the house if you will… (insert chore here).” Over this past weekend, I celebrated the first anniversary of moving into my own house. I moved in four days after the first death anniversary, so it was a…
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Widowers, Wounded, Warrior, Waling and Walking
Desire Purpose Often, our gift to this world–the thing we are here to do–is the thing we tend to fear or dislike the most. Scary how that works. I wanted to be a writer. Here I am writing a blog, not a book. What did you want to be when you grew up? I used…
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