Author: Larry Aherns

  • LIFE HAPPENS WHILE YOU’RE BUSY MAKING OTHER PLANS

    LIFE HAPPENS WHILE YOU’RE BUSY MAKING OTHER PLANS

    This is the famous quote from John Lennon. As I sat down to write this, that quote came to mind because I never expected things to go the way they’ve gone. Yes, we all hated the pandemic that seems to have no end, the uncertainty of the virus’s danger, the inability to be with family […]

  • THE REAL DEFINITION OF WINNING

    WSN: Coffee and Conversation with Larry Ahrens One unsavory reality of losing your wife is dealing with the estate details, relatives, and lawyers. What this process does is smack you in your grieving face one more time with cold reality. Your wife is gone, and now we’re taking inventory and putting a value on things. […]

  • TWO BEERS AND A PUPPY

    WSN: Coffee and Conversation with Larry Ahrens This week’s Coffee & Conversation is a little different. I cannot write about grief right now. Eight months in and lately I’ve been feeling more loss for my wife – not less. The COVID thing drags on. So, let us talk about something else. Here is something you […]

  • WHY DO I FEEL SO STUPID?

    WSN: Coffee and Conversation with Larry Ahrens This grieving process is very devious. You can feel hopeful and blessed one day. And empty and sad the next. Every man in this forum knows what I’m talking about.But nobody told me that grieving would also make you feel kind of dumb. I didn’t see this coming. […]

  • NAVIGATING THE NEW NORMAL

    WSN: Coffee and Conversation with Larry Ahrens Full disclosure. I cannot stand the term “the new normal”. I was quite happy with my old normal, thank you very much. As widower’s we were forced to deal with the new normal when our wives passed away. There is just no getting around it. We have been […]

  • I Miss Us

    It’s another Wednesday night in the summer. I’m just bored. Too hot to be outside here in the desert Southwest. I’m not hungry for dinner. TV isn’t interesting, and I’m pacing the floor.I can pretty much assume that most of you still talk to your late wife. I do every day. So tonight, I went […]

  • THE ALONE MOMENT

    It first hit me in the grocery store. After Susan’s many months of illness, I was consumed with the day-to-day of the situation. Then she passed. A few weeks after the dust settled, I’m pushing the shopping cart in the supermarket, and it finally struck me that I’m shopping for me and me alone. That’s […]

  • Love, Roses and Marilyn Monroe

    One of my wife’s favorite books near the end of her life was “Joe and Marilyn” by C. David Heymann. Susan was fascinated by the tumultuous love story between Marilyn Monroe and baseball star Joe DiMaggio. We would often sit out on our patio sipping wine while Susan read several sections of the book to […]

  • Saying Thank You

    Quarantine allowed us to take some time off from worrying about our appearances. However, to some people, it was a daunting task. One of the good things to come out of this forced time-out is that many people started to understand the value of such workers as hairdressers, nail technicians, masseurs, waiters, and so many […]