Finding Help for Your Grief

Losing your wife is so all-encompassing that it may not be comparable to any other loss except possibly the death of a child. The complete intertwining of your life with your wife in marriage makes her death distinctly life-shattering and life-changing. For this reason, many men find they need both informal and formal help inContinue reading “Finding Help for Your Grief”

Starting Your Day

WSN: Widow-Man with Dr. Nyle Kardatzke “Oh! How I hate to get up in the morning!” Irving Berlin I’m finding now, ten years after my wife’s passing, that I’m having a more challenging time starting my day productively than in my earlier years of widowhood. It’s a lot harder than when I worked full timeContinue reading “Starting Your Day”

Returning to Your World

WSN; Widow-Man with Nyle Kardatzke, PhD. Your wife’s death, her funeral, visitors, and necessary follow-up activities probably kept you away from many of your former, usual activities for a while. Your life had to go on, but it seemed strange, very strange, at first. You probably wondered more than once when or if your lifeContinue reading “Returning to Your World”

Her Clothing, Her Things

WSN: Widow-Man with Dr. Nyle Kardatzke If you have recently lost your wife, you may be asking yourself, “What should I do with my wife’s clothing, jewelry, books, and other possessions?” I believe our wives are now clothed in splendor as Solomon could not have imagined, but we still have their earthly clothing here, andContinue reading “Her Clothing, Her Things”

Till Death us do Part

“My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” Psalm 22:1 and Matthew 27:46 All marriages end in death or divorce. My wife and I talked about our deaths a few times, back when we were both healthy. We sometimes joked about being each other’s “first husband” or “first wife,” never imagining that there mightContinue reading “Till Death us do Part”

Permission to Change

My wife and I slept in a king-size bed in the final years of her life. After her death, I continued to sleep in that massive bed, but always on my side, not hers. It was a comfortable bed, but I found I was swimming all over it at night, and it was hard toContinue reading “Permission to Change”