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Tom Nate, A Good Hearted Man
Tom Nate is not a widower. Rather, Tom Nate is a walking miracle. A resident of San Antonio, Texas, Tom is a man who has endured much and is eager to give forward by supporting the members of WSN. You say you have troubles. Read the account of Tom Nate’s story as written by Kihm…
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HOW TO HONOR YOUR LATE SPOUSE AND A NEW LOVE AT THE SAME TIME
HOW TO HONOR YOUR LATE SPOUSE AND A NEW LOVE AT THE SAME TIME Are you getting ready to think about dating? Alternatively, maybe you’ve already put your toe in the water? Many widowers feel quite divided at this point – between the life they had with their late spouse and the new life they’re…
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Widower: Surreal Grief
Ever feel fuzzy, out of focus, or even surreal? Remember in The Matrix movie when a glitch in the program would cause fragmentation of the image, or when Neo first entered the Matrix and could not determine what was real and what was a computer program. Well, during my early deep grieving, those type of…
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Widowers Need to Be Coachable
What do Tom Brady, Wayne Gretzky, Michael Jordan, and Derek Jeter all have in common? We could start with a considerable amount of athletic ability. Each of these supreme athletes has been recognized as among the best of the best in their sport. They also had one secret weapon each used to master their play;…
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Own your own grief
I’ve known grief for some time now. The unexpected and certainly unwanted passing of far too many of my loved ones has indeed left its ugly mark. But none of my traumatic losses were the same. Nor were they the same as yours, were they? Yet, it can be human nature to fall prey to…
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Why Am I Still Here?
WSN-MO: Widower to Widower with Fred Colby After my wife (Theresa) died, after the numbness, and after the severe physical and mental pain of the first few weeks, I began to ask the question most widowers ask, “Why am I still here? Why did she go first? Wasn’t the plan that I was supposed to…
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Alone Again
When my wife died, one of the first things I noticed was the silence. Now there was only silence where she once had been. I especially longed to hear her voice; I still do. The house suddenly seemed large and hollow. Soon after she died, my mind raced back to the days just before I…
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Widower: Reaching Grace Through Grief
Widower to Widower with Fred Colby When you find yourself in the deepest pit of grief, when you are hurting as you have never hurt before, and when you feel that you will never be able to feel good again… that is when you can find grace, in this… the most unexpected place. It can…
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From Mourning to Grief
Scripture tells us to mourn with those who mourn; it does not say to grieve with those who grieve – but we should. Mourning and grief are not the same. Mourning has a beginning and a distinct end, but grief goes on much longer. Mourning is made up of rituals and procedures that immediately follow…
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The Other Side of Love and Respect
In 2004 Dr. Emerson Eggerich wrote a ground-breaking book titled “Love and Respect.” In this book, Dr. Eggerich brilliantly wrote about the innate need for women to feel loved and men to desire respect. I will never forget when I initially read that book feeling like “yeah, that’s it.” I also remember feeling that Dr.…