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THE ALONE MOMENT
It first hit me in the grocery store. After Susan’s many months of illness, I was consumed with the day-to-day of the situation. Then she passed. A few weeks after the dust settled, I’m pushing the shopping cart in the supermarket, and it finally struck me that I’m shopping for me and me alone. That’s…
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Simple Grief
Want to help someone in grief? Put these 10 things into practice and I guarantee that you will be a comfort and blessing in supporting anyone who is grieving. 1. Be present, now and in the future 2. Let them know you are there to hurt with them 3. Don’t try to “fix” the griever…
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Help from a Higher Power
An Excerpt from The Widower’s Journey – Chapter 5 (Aside: While Chapter 5 may be one of the shortest chapters in my book, The Widower’s Journey, it is, in my view, the most powerful. It also receives the greatest number of favorable comments from readers. I pray it serves you well.) This chapter was written…
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A Widower’s Letter
Widower Ed Hersh (Texas) shares a powerful letter he wrote following the passing of his beautiful bride, Shellie. Ed’s letter speaks volumes about the plight of the 2.7 million widowers in America. He has authorized me to share it with you below. “Hi Bernie, “It was very nice of you to call me yesterday afternoon.…
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Maid, Cook, Concubine, or Wife?
WSN-MO: Widower to Widower with Fred Colby In my last blog, we spoke about how alone and desperate, we often feel after our wife has passed. And we discussed how this could lead to horrible decisions that can pretty much ruin your life going forward. So, what happens when we meet a possible “new best…
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Just Show Up!
I have had an interesting two weeks. Last Saturday, one of my best friend’s wife died from Glioblastoma. If you know this beast, you know it is a terrible diagnosis with a brutal prognosis. Over the past several months, we have spent a lot of time on his porch, talking, drinking wine, and sharing experiences…
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Am I Cheating?
There is a feeling of fall in the air. Depending on where you live, you may have noticed the nights are feeling a little cooler, and the morning air is feeling a little brisker. Where I live, I have also seen the leaves on the trees are starting to lose their spring/summer green color. One…
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A Clean House
Suzanne used to tell me that she enjoyed cleaning the house. She would say, “I don’t mind cleaning the house if you will… (insert chore here).” Over this past weekend, I celebrated the first anniversary of moving into my own house. I moved in four days after the first death anniversary, so it was a…
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Till Death us do Part
“My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” Psalm 22:1 and Matthew 27:46 All marriages end in death or divorce. My wife and I talked about our deaths a few times, back when we were both healthy. We sometimes joked about being each other’s “first husband” or “first wife,” never imagining that there might…