Hello Brothers! I haven’t written much lately. I have, however, been watching the forum, reading many of your posts and cheering you on as you courageously deal with so many issues and challenges of life and death. I’m so impressed by the young men in our group who have instantly become school teachers, IT experts,… Continue reading Be part of the herd
Letter to An Old Friend
Recently, while doing my dishes, I decided to take the time to write a letter to an old friend. Though we have had the opportunity to talk here and there, it always seems like the thoughts shared are just fleeting most of the time. I find that one of the best ways of catching up… Continue reading Letter to An Old Friend
I will not let Grief control me!
On Friday March 12th, 2021, my family and I along with some friends gathered at a funeral home in in Brooklyn NY to honor, remember and show our love to my brother-in -law. My late wife’s oldest brother and the last survivor of her family passed away after a battle with throat cancer. Our service… Continue reading I will not let Grief control me!
I feel at ease in the arms of the world now…
There is a song that, for the last several weeks, has been on constant loop in my mind. It’s Amos Lee’s “Arms of a Woman.” In the song, he sings, “I am at ease in the arms of a woman. But most of my days, I spend alone.” Now as widowers, we can all relate… Continue reading I feel at ease in the arms of the world now…
Is It Possible to Befriend Grief?
by Tom Peyton For the past several months my grief counselor has encouraged me to look at grief from a different perspective. Instead of allowing it at times to crush my spirit, to hit me with an avalanche of tears or overwhelm me with sadness and pain, he suggested I view it as a friend.… Continue reading Is It Possible to Befriend Grief?
Managing those Difficult Days
Many if not most of us find some days more difficult than others. For some it may be a birthday, or an anniversary, yet for others it may be a song or even the house you live in that can be the basis of these feelings. For me, the most complex day of the year… Continue reading Managing those Difficult Days
Managing those Difficult Days
Many if not most of us find some days more difficult than others. For some it may be a birthday, or an anniversary, yet for others it may be a song or even the house you live in that can be the basis of these feelings. For me, the most complex day of the year… Continue reading Managing those Difficult Days
No Such Thing As Closure
There is closure on real estate deals, businesses deals, etc. but there is no such thing as closure on a relationship. Closure means the end of a deal. It’s done, over, completed. All conditions have been met. No more expectations that need to be fulfilled. Closure relates to deals, not life, not relationships. As far… Continue reading No Such Thing As Closure
Death, Disease , Divorce
#death #Disease #Divorce – they leave us with painful memories of traumatic moments. Yet, we must find a way to grab life by the horns and keep living, not merely existing but truly living. Words to live by: Remember…. But do not forget to keep moving forward. Or as my husband will say, “It is… Continue reading Death, Disease , Divorce
Don’t Expect Others to Know What to Do Following Your Loss
Following the passing of a wife or life-partner, it is the widower who needs support, not the deceased. So why is it that so many widowed men complain about their sense of abandonment by their families, friends, neighbors, and co-workers following their loss? Behaviors and interactions with those who you would hope would be of… Continue reading Don’t Expect Others to Know What to Do Following Your Loss