-
WSN – Friends Seemingly Lost
WSN-MO: The Perfect Catch A few minutes with Dating and Relationship Coach, Christine Baumgartner Friends Seemingly Lost Among the many devastating changes that come with widowhood, one that often catches people entirely by surprise is the pulling away of one or more close friends. Most married couples have a few (or many) friends who are…
-
Why I Still Love My Life
Recently I received the gift of a significant breakthrough in my life. But first, a little background. Fifty-two months ago, on a cold February morning, I was driving to the hospital, suitcase in tow to bring my wife home from another incident avoided. You see, I was very used to adjusting our routine with a…
-
Syndicated Columnist Ellen Martin Interviews Herb Knoll
https://www.uexpress.com/smart-moves/2019/4/3/moving-after-a-spouse-dies
-
I Am A Widow-man
When I became a widowed man, I wondered what to call myself. “Widow” is usually applied only to women, but why can’t a man be a widow? Why accept the implied accusation when you are called a “widower?” Long before I lost my wife, I rankled quietly at the term “widower,” and it still sounds…
-
How Purpose Helps You Heal
Besides experiencing overwhelming and sometimes terrifying loneliness, for a widower, the loss of their wife can often leave them feeling lost and without direction. As husbands from an earlier era, we often feel that providing for our family (our wife in particular), is our first and most important purpose. With her gone, you cannot help…
-
Fun Activities to DO with Your Grandchildren
Grieving and Thanksgiving 2018 With the approach of Thanksgiving, I can’t help but think back to Thanksgiving 2012, my very first holiday following my husband’s sudden death. The grief fog was still very thick. Numbness created a comforting cushion around my body and emotions. My husband had died in August. By the time November arrived,…
-
Widower: The Importance of Empathy to Healing Grief
Widower: The Importance of Empathy to Healing Grief Empathy is critical to healing grief. For me, it was second only to gratitude as a skill that I had to develop to pull myself out of the deep depression and suffering I experienced during the first year of my grieving. After losing my wife of 45…
-
Widower: Helping A New Widower on Father’s Day
If your dad recently became a widower, there are ways you can help him on Father’s Day. Fathers who are newly minted widowers on Father’s Day are apt to be in the throes of intense loneliness, self-doubt, and possibly caught up in regrets and self-recrimination. This can lead to self-isolation and depression if not addressed.…
-
Life 2.0
Recently I viewed an interview with author and political pundit David Brooks. During this interview, he was reflecting on a shift in his thinking when it came to his priorities in life. He termed this new way of thinking as his “second mountain.” In many ways, many of us who have lost a spouse or…
-
Widower: Healthy vs. Unhealthy Grief
If you love someone and you lose them, you are going to grieve… there is no getting around it! But, is there a way to grieve that is healthy for you? Or a way that is unhealthy? Based on my own experience and what I have heard from hundreds of widower, the answer is a…