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Fear
I was surprised to find myself fearing some things that I hadn’t feared before, or hadn’t feared as much before she died. When I knew I would be alone in the house for the first time after her death, I was afraid of what my emotional reaction might be. I asked my son and his…
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Alone Again
When my wife died, one of the first things I noticed was the silence. Now there was only silence where she once had been. I especially longed to hear her voice; I still do. The house suddenly seemed large and hollow. Soon after she died, my mind raced back to the days just before I…
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Widowers Need To Step Out of The Shadows and Into the Light of Day
By Herb Knoll Author: The Widower’s Journey Grieving men are misunderstood. And for a good reason. After all, men don’t believe they have permission to grieve in the first place. When a man experiences a loss, they frequently resort to their primitive behaviors, suggesting to those who will listen, “I’m fine,” Oh really? Is that…
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Living In-Between?
Many of us have a natural inclination to do the things that we feel we do well. I, in many ways, have found aspects of widowhood very much like that. Last week I experienced what would have been my 19th wedding anniversary and the celebration of 25 years together with my late wife. Periodically I…
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Widower: Escaping Anxiety
When my wife passed 4 years ago, I first experienced shock and then numbness, after that anger and depression, and after that resignation and doubts about my future without her. It wasn’t until around my sixth month of grieving that I began to experience something unfamiliar to me since my 20’s and 30’s, anxiety… and…
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WSN – Friends Seemingly Lost
WSN-MO: The Perfect Catch A few minutes with Dating and Relationship Coach, Christine Baumgartner Friends Seemingly Lost Among the many devastating changes that come with widowhood, one that often catches people entirely by surprise is the pulling away of one or more close friends. Most married couples have a few (or many) friends who are…
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Why I Still Love My Life
Recently I received the gift of a significant breakthrough in my life. But first, a little background. Fifty-two months ago, on a cold February morning, I was driving to the hospital, suitcase in tow to bring my wife home from another incident avoided. You see, I was very used to adjusting our routine with a…
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Lifeboat Supplies
It’s important to have a ‘lifeboat’ prepared for those hard times. In a recent post, I talked about how I like to visualize my mood as a buoy in the sea. There have been times in my life when ocean waves would wash over my buoy, but then it would always pop back up. When…
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What are you going to be doing on New Year’s Eve?
WSN-MO: The Perfect Catch WSN-MO Dating and Relationship Coach, Christine Baumgartner asks… What are you going to be doing on New Year’s Eve? I’ve been talking about the holiday season and widowhood for the past couple weeks. In those articles, I haven’t included the New Year’s celebration because it often impacts people differently than the…
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A Widower’s Christmas Wish List
by Herb Knoll Author: The Widower’s Journey From as far away as Australia to the British Isles, from Canada to Nigeria, the Widowers Support Network hears the cries of men who mourn the loss of their wife, their soul mates, their partners in life. Widowed men don’t ask for much, never have, never will. After…
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