Category: Loneliness

  • New Year – New You – New Relationships?

    New Year – New You – New Relationships?

    Often after our wives pass, some other crisis will come along that shakes us and causes us to confront our current state of thinking about our life going forward. This may be just what is needed to wake us and point us into a more promising future. While being prepped for an emergency hernia operation […]

  • Do You Have Male Friends?

    Do You Have Male Friends?

    Noted clinical psychologist Edward Zimmer, MA, from Savannah, Georgia, is a friend of mine. You may recognize his name as he was a contributor to my book, The Widower’s Journey, and has been a guest on my podcast, Widower’s Journey Podcast. Better said, he is a childhood friend I first met on a baseball diamond when I was only […]

  • Epitaph – Words of Hope

    Epitaph – Words of Hope

    Epitaph is defined as “words written in memory of a person who has died.” Sometimes it’s a phrase or a sentence that captures the essence of the person.  An epitaph is frequently seen on a tombstone of someone who has passed away.  It’s also the title of a beautiful poem by a woman named Merrit […]

  • God, Football, Sex and Gold-diggers

    God, Football, Sex and Gold-diggers

    by Fred Colby Admit it! How often have even the most devout of us chosen to attend a football game (or other favorite sport or activity) instead of church? Or instead of spending time with your family? Or instead of honoring a previous commitment to a friend? If you are a churchgoer, you might be […]

  • Familiar Places

    Familiar Places

    Familiar Places I know this happens to you.  As you travel around your town, you pass by many places that were once either special or routine to you and your late wife.  If you’re like me, sometimes you pass by them absentmindedly.  Other times it brings tears to your eyes. For me, the places are […]

  • So Tied To You

    So Tied To You

    My late wife, Jan, loved music.  Her tastes in music varied widely.  We began dating in 1969, on the tail end of the fabulous 60s era of music.  Our first decade of marriage was the 70s.  The best songs of that era stayed with us throughout her life, as they reminded us of happy times […]

  • NEW YEAR – NEW RELATIONSHIPS?

    NEW YEAR – NEW RELATIONSHIPS?

    While being prepped for an emergency hernia operation four months after my wife’s death, I instructed the doctors three times that I wanted a “Do Not Resuscitate” order in place. I saw this as an opportunity to rejoin my wonderful wife of 45 years. Many hours later ­― I woke up! The immediate question that […]

  • A Celibate Life

    A Celibate Life

    “To the unmarried and the widows, I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am.”                                                             1 Corinthians 7:8 The Apostle Paul had strong reasons for being single. Now that you are single again, you may be asking yourself whether the single life is best for you for the rest […]

  • Which Internet dating site is the “best” one?

    Which Internet dating site is the “best” one?

    When I speak to groups or talk to new clients, I can count on hearing questions about dating sites; which one should I use and which is the “best” one? Over the years,I’ve come to understand what they’re really asking is: (1) Where are the good people? (2) Where will I meet the person of […]

  • WHERE CAN I GET HELP?

    WHERE CAN I GET HELP?

    If you are a widower looking for help, ideas, or support, this blog is for you! At this time of year many of us have a difficult time getting through all the poignant reminders of our spouse. This is NOT the time to be the silent loner. It is the time to reach out to […]