Category: Loneliness

  • NEW YEAR – NEW RELATIONSHIPS?

    NEW YEAR – NEW RELATIONSHIPS?

    While being prepped for an emergency hernia operation four months after my wife’s death, I instructed the doctors three times that I wanted a “Do Not Resuscitate” order in place. I saw this as an opportunity to rejoin my wonderful wife of 45 years. Many hours later ­― I woke up! The immediate question that […]

  • A Celibate Life

    A Celibate Life

    “To the unmarried and the widows, I say that it is good for them to remain single as I am.”                                                             1 Corinthians 7:8 The Apostle Paul had strong reasons for being single. Now that you are single again, you may be asking yourself whether the single life is best for you for the rest […]

  • Which Internet dating site is the “best” one?

    Which Internet dating site is the “best” one?

    When I speak to groups or talk to new clients, I can count on hearing questions about dating sites; which one should I use and which is the “best” one? Over the years,I’ve come to understand what they’re really asking is: (1) Where are the good people? (2) Where will I meet the person of […]

  • WHERE CAN I GET HELP?

    If you are a widower looking for help, ideas, or support, this blog is for you! At this time of year many of us have a difficult time getting through all the poignant reminders of our spouse. This is NOT the time to be the silent loner. It is the time to reach out to […]

  • Transitional Objects

    Last week I saw a story on the news about a woman who lost her 94-year-old father after he battled an illness for a short time. The woman reflected on the task that many of us have dreaded: sorting through her father’s belongings and then deciding what and to whom you want to give them. […]

  • This Life We Are Given: As Simple As ABC?

    WSN: A Few Minutes with Terell Whitener Recently I lost a colleague due to some unfortunate circumstances. Historically in these writings, I share with you, it focuses on strategies for managing the loss of our spouses, partners, and significant others. However, recent events in my own life have made me reflect that loss continues to […]

  • Starting Your Day

    WSN: Widow-Man with Dr. Nyle Kardatzke “Oh! How I hate to get up in the morning!” Irving Berlin I’m finding now, ten years after my wife’s passing, that I’m having a more challenging time starting my day productively than in my earlier years of widowhood. It’s a lot harder than when I worked full time […]

  • Grief Loss and the Upcoming Holiday Season, Strategies for Getting Your ARMS Around It Early

    WSN-MO: A Few Minutes with Terrell Whitener For my offering this week, I have chosen an article out of my archives to share with the brotherhood. I hope you enjoy and, most importantly, consider integrating this into your approach to the season ahead. Before you know it, the holiday season will be upon us. For […]

  • God, Football, Sex & Gold-diggers

    WSN: Widower to Widower with Fred Colby Admit it! How often have even the most devout of us have chosen to attend a football game (or other favorite sport or activity) instead of attending church? Or instead of spending time with your family? Or instead of honoring a previous commitment to a friend? If you […]

  • I Miss Us

    It’s another Wednesday night in the summer. I’m just bored. Too hot to be outside here in the desert Southwest. I’m not hungry for dinner. TV isn’t interesting, and I’m pacing the floor.I can pretty much assume that most of you still talk to your late wife. I do every day. So tonight, I went […]