“Sometimes our healing happens when we change the way we relate to the things that will not change” – Vienna Pharaon

By Tom Peyton As I mentioned in a previous column, I receive daily inspirational quotes, and this one arrived not only from the site that sends them but forwarded as well from a high school classmate to me. They are both asking me to examine the quote and unravel its meaning. I will give itContinue reading ““Sometimes our healing happens when we change the way we relate to the things that will not change” – Vienna Pharaon”

WSN Tribute in Florida House of Representatives

Yesterday, at the State of Florida Capitol in Tallahassee, in the Florida House of Representatives, State Representative Scott Plakon paid “A Tribute” to the Widowers Support Network and myself. Scott is himself is a widower (although he too has rediscovered love and has remarried) and is a member of WSN-MO. I want to publicly thank Scott for the honor heContinue reading “WSN Tribute in Florida House of Representatives”

Herb Knoll Honors His Journey And Becomes the Unintentional Widower Whisperer

It started as a step toward healing himself…became a book, a podcast and a ministry. As a bank executive, Herb Knoll was known as a man who could get the job done. But when Knoll lost his wife to cancer he found no resources to help him recover. The more he learned about the plightContinue reading “Herb Knoll Honors His Journey And Becomes the Unintentional Widower Whisperer”

No Such Thing As Closure

There is closure on real estate deals, businesses deals, etc. but there is no such thing as closure on a relationship. Closure means the end of a deal. It’s done, over, completed. All conditions have been met. No more expectations that need to be fulfilled. Closure relates to deals, not life, not relationships. As farContinue reading “No Such Thing As Closure”

Don’t Expect Others to Know What to Do Following Your Loss

Following the passing of a wife or life-partner, it is the widower who needs support, not the deceased. So why is it that so many widowed men complain about their sense of abandonment by their families, friends, neighbors, and co-workers following their loss? Behaviors and interactions with those who you would hope would be ofContinue reading “Don’t Expect Others to Know What to Do Following Your Loss”

Can you see and be the Lights?

On January 20th, 2021 a precocious 22-year-old African -American woman told a divided and grief-stricken nation “We can grow as we Grieve”. I like most people was awe-struck by her profound wisdom that far exceeds her youth. My purpose in writing is to examine her poem as she speaks to us about grief and shedsContinue reading “Can you see and be the Lights?”

#466: What It’s Like to Become a Widower | The Art of Manliness

What’s it like for a man to lose the person at the very center of his life — his wife? Maybe you know firsthand, because you’ve lost a spouse yourself. Or maybe you know a friend or family member who’s a widower, and have wondered what he’s going through and how to help him. OrContinue reading “#466: What It’s Like to Become a Widower | The Art of Manliness”