Author: Herb Knoll

  • Don’t Expect Others to Know What to Do Following Your Loss

    Don’t Expect Others to Know What to Do Following Your Loss

    Following the passing of a wife or life-partner, it is the widower who needs support, not the deceased. So why is it that so many widowed men complain about their sense of abandonment by their families, friends, neighbors, and co-workers following their loss? Behaviors and interactions with those who you would hope would be of […]

  • #466: What It’s Like to Become a Widower | The Art of Manliness

    #466: What It’s Like to Become a Widower | The Art of Manliness

    What’s it like for a man to lose the person at the very center of his life — his wife? Maybe you know firsthand, because you’ve lost a spouse yourself. Or maybe you know a friend or family member who’s a widower, and have wondered what he’s going through and how to help him. Or […]

  • Dash

    Dash

    March 28, 1959 ~ April 5, 2018. There is so much about my late wife Lorna’s life that you really can’t signify it by placing a dash between her first breath and her last breath. The Pastor mentioned it at her celebration of life. The dash represents decades, represents learning, loving, serving, raising a family, […]

  • Herb Knoll and His Widower Support Group

    Herb Knoll and His Widower Support Group

    Grief is a topic no one wants to study, or learn about, until you are in it. It’s a “if it hasn’t happened to me yet, I certainly don’t want to mention it” kind of thing. Herb Knoll lost his wife Michelle to cancer in 2008 after having been her care giver for 39 months. […]

  • Herb Knoll and His Widower Support Group

    Herb Knoll and His Widower Support Group

    Grief is a topic no one wants to study, or learn about, until you are in it. It’s a “if it hasn’t happened to me yet, I certainly don’t want to mention it” kind of thing. Herb Knoll lost his wife Michelle to cancer in 2008 after having been her care giver for 39 months. […]

  • Simple Grief

    Simple Grief

    Want to help someone in grief? Put these 10 things into practice and I guarantee that you will be a comfort and blessing in supporting anyone who is grieving. 1. Be present, now and in the future 2. Let them know you are there to hurt with them 3. Don’t try to “fix” the griever […]

  • Help from a Higher Power

    Help from a Higher Power

    An Excerpt from The Widower’s Journey – Chapter 5 (Aside: While Chapter 5 may be one of the shortest chapters in my book, The Widower’s Journey, it is, in my view, the most powerful. It also receives the greatest number of favorable comments from readers. I pray it serves you well.) This chapter was written […]

  • A Widower’s Letter

    A Widower’s Letter

    Widower Ed Hersh (Texas) shares a powerful letter he wrote following the passing of his beautiful bride, Shellie.  Ed’s letter speaks volumes about the plight of the 2.7 million widowers in America.  He has authorized me to share it with you below. “Hi Bernie, “It was very nice of you to call me yesterday afternoon. […]

  • Why Widowers Grieve Differently, and Some Resources To Help

    Why Widowers Grieve Differently, and Some Resources To Help

    By: Herb Knoll Author: The Widower’s Journey Widowers are vulnerable. Very vulnerable! In fact, according to research performed by Dr. Justin Denney of Washington State University, widowed men have a 1.6 to 2.0 times the risk of death by suicide, compared to otherwise similar married men, and they’ll do so within two years of their […]

  • The Dangers of Compound Isolation

    The Dangers of Compound Isolation

    “How has everyone been dealing with the loneliness, especially in this socially distancing world?” Jeremy asked this question, a member of the Widowers Support Network – Members Only, a ministry on Facebook for grieving men who have lost their soulmate. The responses to Jeremy’s question ranged from “It’s almost indescribable” by Stephen to Bill, who […]