Author: herbknoll

  • A Widower’s Letter

    Widower Ed Hersh (Texas) shares a powerful letter he wrote following the passing of his beautiful bride, Shellie.  Ed’s letter speaks volumes about the plight of the 2.7 million widowers in America.  He has authorized me to share it with you below. “Hi Bernie, “It was very nice of you to call me yesterday afternoon. […]

  • Why Widowers Grieve Differently, and Some Resources To Help

    By: Herb Knoll Author: The Widower’s Journey Widowers are vulnerable. Very vulnerable! In fact, according to research performed by Dr. Justin Denney of Washington State University, widowed men have a 1.6 to 2.0 times the risk of death by suicide, compared to otherwise similar married men, and they’ll do so within two years of their […]

  • The Dangers of Compound Isolation

    The Dangers of Compound Isolation

    “How has everyone been dealing with the loneliness, especially in this socially distancing world?” Jeremy asked this question, a member of the Widowers Support Network – Members Only, a ministry on Facebook for grieving men who have lost their soulmate. The responses to Jeremy’s question ranged from “It’s almost indescribable” by Stephen to Bill, who […]

  • WSN: Talking About Your Health

    Think On This. If it sounds familiar, seek help. My Opioid Addiction Posted by jdiakiw @jdiakiw My body is my major negative asset. I am riddled with pain. At a 5, 6 or 7 out of 10 on my pain scale, I still function normally, just living through it. At a 10, I suffer in […]

  • Dreams Unfulfilled

    Dreams Unfulfilled

    As I pulled up to the traffic light at Highway #1604 and Blanco Rd. in San Antonio, I looked over to my right and saw a car pulling up beside me. In it was an elderly couple, each with their radiant silver hair. I immediately felt a sadness come over me as I was on […]

  • Widower: Self-Isolation – What Now With COVID-19?

    If you are a recent widower, this blog is for you! Widowers often are advised to avoid self-isolation. It is harmful to our physical and mental health. Fear, anger, doubt, and depression can run rampant. Destructive behaviors, such as alcoholism and drug use, are common. This can lead to alienation from our family, friends, co-workers, […]

  • Helping Your Children

    An Excerpt from The Widower’s Journey (Taken from Chapter 10) As I said at the beginning of this chapter, grief means we’ve been cut off from a relationship that brought us all kinds of emotional benefits. Part of our recovery is finding sources of emotional support that will help assuage the sting of that loss. […]

  • Reaching for Help

    An Excerpt from The Widower’s Journey (Taken from Chapter 2) As I said at the beginning of this chapter, grief means we’ve been cut off from a relationship that brought us all kinds of emotional benefits. Part of our recovery is finding sources of emotional support that will help assuage the sting of that loss. […]

  • Tom Nate, A Good Hearted Man

    Tom Nate is not a widower. Rather, Tom Nate is a walking miracle. A resident of San Antonio, Texas, Tom is a man who has endured much and is eager to give forward by supporting the members of WSN. You say you have troubles.  Read the account of Tom Nate’s story as written by Kihm […]

  • Widowers Need to Be Coachable

    Widowers Need to Be Coachable

    What do Tom Brady, Wayne Gretzky, Michael Jordan, and Derek Jeter all have in common? We could start with a considerable amount of athletic ability. Each of these supreme athletes has been recognized as among the best of the best in their sport. They also had one secret weapon each used to master their play; […]