Author: herbknoll

  • No Such Thing As Closure

    There is closure on real estate deals, businesses deals, etc. but there is no such thing as closure on a relationship. Closure means the end of a deal. It’s done, over, completed. All conditions have been met. No more expectations that need to be fulfilled. Closure relates to deals, not life, not relationships. As far […]

  • Don’t Expect Others to Know What to Do Following Your Loss

    Don’t Expect Others to Know What to Do Following Your Loss

    Following the passing of a wife or life-partner, it is the widower who needs support, not the deceased. So why is it that so many widowed men complain about their sense of abandonment by their families, friends, neighbors, and co-workers following their loss? Behaviors and interactions with those who you would hope would be of […]

  • #466: What It’s Like to Become a Widower | The Art of Manliness

    What’s it like for a man to lose the person at the very center of his life — his wife? Maybe you know firsthand, because you’ve lost a spouse yourself. Or maybe you know a friend or family member who’s a widower, and have wondered what he’s going through and how to help him. Or […]

  • Dash

    March 28, 1959 ~ April 5, 2018. There is so much about my late wife Lorna’s life that you really can’t signify it by placing a dash between her first breath and her last breath. The Pastor mentioned it at her celebration of life. The dash represents decades, represents learning, loving, serving, raising a family, […]

  • WHEN DEATH DOES US PART

    WSN: Grief Relief with David Knapp (A Guest Column) “Till death do us part…” I repeated. Those words seemed to echo throughout the vast college chapel following my promise and then my bride’s commitment. The witnesses, family, and friends of our wedding stood by smiling. Our parents sat with proud looks on their faces. In […]

  • Too Much Chaos

    WSN-MO: Jeff Ziegler – Widowers, Wounded, Warrior, Waling and Walking Over the last two years, I have found that on numerous occasions, I have “bitten off a lot more than I can chew.” It has been challenging to take on some things I have chosen to do—mostly to distract myself from my grief, making it […]

  • Herb Knoll and His Widower Support Group

    Herb Knoll and His Widower Support Group

    Grief is a topic no one wants to study, or learn about, until you are in it. It’s a “if it hasn’t happened to me yet, I certainly don’t want to mention it” kind of thing. Herb Knoll lost his wife Michelle to cancer in 2008 after having been her care giver for 39 months. […]

  • Herb Knoll and His Widower Support Group

    Grief is a topic no one wants to study, or learn about, until you are in it. It’s a “if it hasn’t happened to me yet, I certainly don’t want to mention it” kind of thing. Herb Knoll lost his wife Michelle to cancer in 2008 after having been her care giver for 39 months. […]

  • Simple Grief

    Want to help someone in grief? Put these 10 things into practice and I guarantee that you will be a comfort and blessing in supporting anyone who is grieving. 1. Be present, now and in the future 2. Let them know you are there to hurt with them 3. Don’t try to “fix” the griever […]

  • Help from a Higher Power

    An Excerpt from The Widower’s Journey – Chapter 5 (Aside: While Chapter 5 may be one of the shortest chapters in my book, The Widower’s Journey, it is, in my view, the most powerful. It also receives the greatest number of favorable comments from readers. I pray it serves you well.) This chapter was written […]