Returning to Your World

WSN; Widow-Man with Nyle Kardatzke, PhD. Your wife’s death, her funeral, visitors, and necessary follow-up activities probably kept you away from many of your former, usual activities for a while. Your life had to go on, but it seemed strange, very strange, at first. You probably wondered more than once when or if your lifeContinue reading “Returning to Your World”

Her Clothing, Her Things

WSN: Widow-Man with Dr. Nyle Kardatzke If you have recently lost your wife, you may be asking yourself, “What should I do with my wife’s clothing, jewelry, books, and other possessions?” I believe our wives are now clothed in splendor as Solomon could not have imagined, but we still have their earthly clothing here, andContinue reading “Her Clothing, Her Things”

Till Death us do Part

“My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” Psalm 22:1 and Matthew 27:46 All marriages end in death or divorce. My wife and I talked about our deaths a few times, back when we were both healthy. We sometimes joked about being each other’s “first husband” or “first wife,” never imagining that there mightContinue reading “Till Death us do Part”

Permission to Change

My wife and I slept in a king-size bed in the final years of her life. After her death, I continued to sleep in that massive bed, but always on my side, not hers. It was a comfortable bed, but I found I was swimming all over it at night, and it was hard toContinue reading “Permission to Change”

Memory and Memories

Our memories, in many ways, are a storehouse of who we are. Remembering past events tells you something about who you are. We widow-men face practical issues of memory: our ability to remember names, appointments, and where we have left things. There are also memories that we want to keep: mental pictures of scenes weContinue reading “Memory and Memories”