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Loneliness after loss…It just adds to the pain and suffering.
By Jay Deutsch We met when we were both 18. We were both kids running from our childhood traumas. It was ššøšæš® at first sight for both of us and we spent all of our time together. Since she suffered from anxiety, depression, and mental illness there was little she wanted to do without me…
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Can We Go Home Again?
by Jim Winner. Hello friends. I havenāt written much lately. Iāve been lurking, watching, learning, and observing you, my brothers, on our collective paths. As of this writing, I am three years and three months into my journey. If there were a grief degree, I, like many of you, would hold a Ph.D. For the…
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āIf You Feel You are in a black hole, don’t give up. Thereās A Way Outā – Stephen Hawking
by Tom Peyton Stephen Hawking, the English theoretical physicist, was probably one of the greatest minds ever to exist. My feeble mind could never attempt to understand the workings of this genius, but a few of his famous quotes always inspired me. What strikes me about the passage mentioned above is that Hawking believed something…
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Why I Divorced My Grief
by Terrell L. Whitener My dear brothers, recently I decided to get a divorce. The actual divorce was not between myself and another person but with emotion, I had carried for far too long. That emotion was grief. Realistically, our grief will always assume some space in our existence; however, in my case, I decided…
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The Season of Fall and All Its Opportunities
By Tom Peyton For meteorologists, September 1st marks the beginning of Fall. For most parents, September means a return to school for their children, and for most people, a return to the routines of the Fall season. For those in the world of grief and loss, the season can trigger the loss, pain, and sadness…
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“Retiring To” vs “Retiring From”
by Richard Dri IMAGINE 25-30 YEARS AHEAD TO DO EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT, WHEN YOU WANT. ARE YOU READY FOR THAT? Donāt confuse retirement with vacation. Itās important you create a plan thatās fulfilling for the long-term, and about more than just having the money. I recently turned 60. Five years away from retirement, if…
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Grief. Guilt. The Unexpected Emotional Gut Punch Of A Life Insurance Cheque
by Richard Dri When the reality of life insurance sinks in. You and your spouse both knew that life insurance made perfect sense. Now as a widow or widower, why do you feel so guilty? I donāt think thereās a person reading this who doesnāt understand that life insurance is one of the most practical…
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The Stupid Things They Say
by Dr. David Knapp PhD One big question concerning loss we all encounter regularly is “What do yo say to a friend or loved one when they experience severe loss?” I learned from personal experience that few would-be comforters are comfortable with helpful statements like āYour heart must be hurting right now.ā Many have…
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Do We Ever Live Again? Or Do We Just Exist?
by Cynthia Mascarenhas Life drags on. In one sense, it is mundane. In another, it is so full of unpredictability. Unexpected emotional peaks and troughs. Unexpected challenges to our emotional, psychological, and physical health. The inability to envision a future, dream, plan, and have a sense of excitement. An overwhelming sense of despair characterizes each…
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Memories and Grief
by Dr. David Knapp, PhD It has been said that time and memories are the grieverās friend. In the weeks after my first wife died, I became very concerned that the people would forget Ruth. I did not want that to happen because I knew I would not forget her. My mind was full of…
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