Category: Healing

  • Taking Stock in 2023

    Taking Stock in 2023

    January 25th marked the seventeenth month since my wife of 51 years transitioned to the Other Side.  I recently reviewed what I have gone through during that time—what has worked for me and what has not.  I should say at the outset that I am in a much better place than I was a year […]

  • Life is like riding a bicycle; to keep your balance; you must keep moving” – Albert Einstein

    Life is like riding a bicycle; to keep your balance; you must keep moving”                     – Albert Einstein

    Over 93 years ago, Albert Einstein wrote a letter to his son to encourage him never to give up.  I don’t know what the circumstances of the letter involved, but I know Einstein, the physicist used an image that his son could easily relate to a bicycle.  Momentum, along with a rider’s balance, helps keep […]

  • ACCEPTING LIFE AS A WIDOWER: THE 30 MONTH MARK

    ACCEPTING LIFE AS A WIDOWER: THE 30 MONTH MARK

    I lost my wife Mary in January 2020. At the time I didn’t know how I’d move forward. My journey continues, on a road paved by acceptance. January 2020 was when my beloved wife, friend, soulmate, and rock of 33 years, Mary, passed away after a brave fight against cancer. PERSONAL COMMUNITY After Mary’s death, […]

  • Life is Best When Lived In Pencil – Part 2

    Life is Best When Lived In Pencil – Part 2

    Change, change, change. The only constant seems to be change. In a recent column, I shared that I am considering moving back to the area where I was raised. That’s a huge change for me. That’s getting out the pencil and erasing some plans that had previously been considered to be permanent. It’s good, though, […]

  • A Fourth Way to Raise Your Hand to God

    A Fourth Way to Raise Your Hand to God

    In my previous post, I discussed three ways to raise your hand to God when going through painful circumstances, such as losing your wife: I admit I may have done the first; I am sure I have done the second. However, as I walked through the painful process of accepting the reality of losing my […]

  • Knowing That You Care

    Knowing That You Care

    I had a delightful surprise yesterday.  The hospice where I volunteer as a minister to men who are caregivers and widowers asked me to co-facilitate a grief support group they had recently formed after over a year of not providing one.  The first of eight meetings was yesterday.  There were 22 attendees, plus the facilitator […]

  • WHEN KIDS GRIEVE

    WHEN KIDS GRIEVE

    Helping a child cope with a loss due to death can be fundamental in helping them deal with loss of any kind the rest of their life. However, I found it to be a new experience and a hard one. The day my first wife, Ruth, died I had 4 children at home ranging from […]

  • Lessons I Learned from A Man Called Otto

    Lessons I Learned from A Man Called Otto

    Two weeks ago, I decided to go to the movies and see the new film A Man Called Otto, starring Tom Hanks.  Hanks has the title role based on a Swedish film called A Man Called Ove.  I read many reviews and saw a mixed bag of comments, from disappointment in Tom Hanks; to dislike […]

  • Life Is Best When Lived In Pencil

    Life Is Best When Lived In Pencil

    Life is best when lived in pencil. Life is best when we accept and adapt to ournew realities. Life is best when we embrace the fact that our lives are not over. Aportion and chapter of our lives has ended, however, there is more to go. Life isbest when we realize we can be restored […]

  • Can Being Widowed Make You A Better Person? 

    Can Being Widowed Make You A Better Person? 

    WHEN MARY DIED, I LOST MY SOULMATE AND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE. BUT I DISCOVERED SOMEONE NEW – MYSELF. The mere thought that being a widow or widower can have positive aspects feels taboo – something we don’t talk about. I’m about to say what might sound like the most terrible thing a widow […]