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Golden Bachelor Marriage Ends Quickly – Why?
Recent headlines about the very brief three-month marriage of Widower Gerry Turner (the first Golden Bachelor) and Theresa Nist coming to an end, raise some interesting questions. The pace of the Golden Bachelor program is frenetic. It expects a Bachelor to identify, court, and then marry a new bride after just a few months of…
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HERE’S A HAPPY ENDING
Herb has asked me to write a short piece about my story and offer some hope to the men who are in this forum who are struggling with their grief. The month of March is particularly poignant because I lost my dear wife, Susan, four years ago this month. But I never imagined the beautiful…
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QUICK HITTERS #9
Produced by Fred Colby Quick Hitters are brief responses to Questions posed by author Fred Colby to his fellow WSN contributors. They offer a variety of perspectives on some of the most challenging questions facing new widowers. Enjoy. Quick Hitter Question #9: How should I tell my kids about it when I start dating again? Brian…
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SINGLE UKRAINIAN WOMEN LOOKING FOR OLDER MEN!
This and similar enticing messages run constantly on dating sites and social media pages used by widowers. Usually, they get your attention with a picture of an attractive young gal about half your age, usually with some cleavage showing. Unfortunately, these siren song messages go along with our being identified as widowers. Way too many…
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Should I Start Dating?
On her last conscious day, my wife advised me not to get involved with another woman until she had been gone a year. A little more than a year after my wife died, I began dating a woman whom I thought I might marry. I had known her for years, she was attractive, and we…
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Why Does Gerry Turner Cry So Much?
OK… I confess. My girlfriend enticed me into watching The Golden Bachelor, in which 73-year-old Gerry Turner (a widower since 2017) meets, dates, and engages in numerous activities (dancing, 3-wheeling, Pickleball, and more) while trying to determine if one of 22 women “candidates” would be someone to spend the rest of his life with. In…
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A Support Circle Can Help You Heal
Eight years ago, I found myself where many of you are today… in a deep grieving mode without the one person I could always rely upon to hear, support, and love me whenever I faced a major challenge. I, like many of you, had to decide: I recognized early on that I could not do…
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The Heart Expands
I had known one of Dana’s best friends (Laura) since first grade. With nowhere to really go where I felt comfortable, I started stopping by her apartment after Dana’s death. We’d share stories of Dana, while allowing each other to be comfortable in our grief. Shortly thereafter, Shelly moved in with Laura. I vaguely knew…
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Accepting Old Age
My wife died in October 2010. I was nearly 70 years old, and her passing plunged me into grief and confusion. We had been married almost 40 years, and our marriage had been a good one. In the first year after her passing, I longed for female companionship, but my wife had wisely warned me…
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Should I Date Again?
Once you have made the decision to date again as a widower, prepare yourself for the shock of entering a much different dating scene after an absence of many years. As mentioned in my previous blog, I only decided to date again after an emergency hernia operation and a subsequent desire to re-engage with life…
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