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Golden Bachelor Marriage Ends Quickly – Why?
Recent headlines about the very brief three-month marriage of Widower Gerry Turner (the first Golden Bachelor) and Theresa Nist coming to an end, raise some interesting questions. The pace of the Golden Bachelor program is frenetic. It expects a Bachelor to identify, court, and then marry a new bride after just a few months of…
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Sex and the Widower
Sex is a topic that we widowers often have difficulty discussing with each other, much less with friends, family, or even therapists. And yet, it needs to be addressed. Why? Because so many of us have so much trouble dealing with the topic. It does not matter whether you are impotent or acting like a…
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What Can Matt & Ben Teach Widowers?
Matt Damon and Ben Affleck seem unlikely to be the pair that will teach widowers how to heal and regain purpose and joy in their lives. But in fact, they are an excellent example for us to follow. As I have mentioned before, when a husband dies, his wife will likely be surrounded by her…
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HERE’S A HAPPY ENDING
Herb has asked me to write a short piece about my story and offer some hope to the men who are in this forum who are struggling with their grief. The month of March is particularly poignant because I lost my dear wife, Susan, four years ago this month. But I never imagined the beautiful…
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QUICK HITTERS #9
Produced by Fred Colby Quick Hitters are brief responses to Questions posed by author Fred Colby to his fellow WSN contributors. They offer a variety of perspectives on some of the most challenging questions facing new widowers. Enjoy. Quick Hitter Question #9: How should I tell my kids about it when I start dating again? Brian…
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You Can’t Please Everyone
We widowers often hear that soon after the death of our wives, we will lose many friends and possibly some family ties. This frequently occurs despite our best efforts to maintain these previously reliable and important relationships. This can result in: If we are brave enough, we may try to reach out to those who…
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What Do You Say To Someone Who Is Suffering?
As the co-facilitator of a religious grief support group, I was recently asked what I usually say to someone who has recently suffered a loss. I tell people often I don’t say anything. I don’t have words or a vocabulary that can take away their tears, make them feel less sad, or provide the comfort…
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Quick Hitters # 7
Quick Hitters are brief responses to Questions posed by author Fred Colby to his fellow WSN contributors. They offer a variety of perspectives on some of the most challenging questions facing new widowers. Enjoy. Quick Hitter Question #7: What is the most important thing to do to preserve my relationships with friends and family after…
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The Heart Expands
I had known one of Dana’s best friends (Laura) since first grade. With nowhere to really go where I felt comfortable, I started stopping by her apartment after Dana’s death. We’d share stories of Dana, while allowing each other to be comfortable in our grief. Shortly thereafter, Shelly moved in with Laura. I vaguely knew…
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My Breakout Year
Several months ago, I shared that 2023 would be my “breakout year.” At the time, I didn’t know what that meant, except I intended to focus on myself and the beginning of my new life following the loss of my beloved Jan, my wife and soul mate, for 51 years. I had spent the second…
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