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“When I started counting my blessings, my whole life turned around.” – Willie Nelson
Happy New Year, my dear brothers. Hard to believe it’s 2023. I wish you peace, comfort, and strength as we start a new year. I was trying to find a quote to help me as I begin a new year. I looked at the words of wisdom from ancient philosophers as I have done in […]
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The View from the Other Side of the Mirror
First, Happy New Year, Brothers. Many of you have just experienced the first holiday season without your loved one; for others, welcome to January. For many, the start of the new year serves as a time to set new goals or make new resolutions. I have taken this time to take a clear look at […]
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Rebuilding Life After Death
by Mark Colgan, CFP When you’re in the midst of grief and overwhelmed by all the tasks you have to tackle after a loved one passes away, it can feel lonely and, sometimes, scary. As discouraging as it may feel at the time, there can be a good life after death. It can be scary […]
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Thoughts for the New Year
Rudyard Kipling, in his book Bridge Building, says, “Never look backward, or you’ll fall down the stairs.” This statement, in the context of his book, inspires serious philosophical and existential questions related to the duality between science and the spiritual. Still, it also evokes a fear of looking back at where so much of life […]
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New Year – New You – New Relationships?
Often after our wives pass, some other crisis will come along that shakes us and causes us to confront our current state of thinking about our life going forward. This may be just what is needed to wake us and point us into a more promising future. While being prepped for an emergency hernia operation […]
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Pathfinder
To a man, we are stepping into Christmas with much trepidation or resignation. Without our wives, it is, for some, a terrible time and, for others, at best, a melancholy time. For me, this year will be melancholy. But I told my grief therapist today (whom I still see twice a month) that there is […]
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Holiday Greetings
So here we are again. Another Holiday season. This marks the 5th consecutive crazy Christmas for me. Christmas in 2018 had my late wife Joyce just completing her first round of a terrible chemotherapy. By Christmas 2019 she had passed away. We all know how the first Christmas goes. Then came 2020 and that silly […]
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Thanks to each of you for supporting me
I can’t believe that in two weeks, 2022 will end, and 2023 will begin. Another year will end, and a New Year will begin with my hope and aspirations for new and exciting possibilities. It was how I looked at each year for many years until that villain called grief entered the picture. It took […]
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Each One, Help One
“Don’t hoard your lessons!” Those words hammered into the back of my mind one day, about three months after my second wife died. By then, I’d been asked to share my grief journey. Contrary, or maybe not, to what one may think, it came pretty easy to talk about and was beneficial to me. I […]
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Healing Through Journaling
As you make your way into your new life as a widowed man, it can be helpful to keep track of some of the events on your journey. This is new territory. You may want to know later what you have been through. There are at least two benefits of journaling: first: When you get […]
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