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Every year I share the 9/11 story of myself and my childhood best friend, Mike.
It’s an amazing story of baseball, beer, and friendship. In 2016 , our story went viral by being told by Mike Rowe on his “The Way I Heard It” podcast. The episode was called “You Don’t Know Mike”. But it goes even deeper than that. In my book, Shake Yourself Free, I write about how crucial my…
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The Heart Expands
I had known one of Dana’s best friends (Laura) since first grade. With nowhere to really go where I felt comfortable, I started stopping by her apartment after Dana’s death. We’d share stories of Dana, while allowing each other to be comfortable in our grief. Shortly thereafter, Shelly moved in with Laura. I vaguely knew…
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Perspective
Our journey after loss consists of many trials, revelations, and missteps throughout life’s evolution. Once the reality of our new life settles in, perspective becomes our great friend. Fifteen years after Dana died, I lost my high-powered grocery executive career, which led to eventual financial ruin. For so many years, my job was my identity.…
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Grow, Process and Grieve
I’ve been widowed for over 30 years. What shocked me was how ignorant the older generations were toward me. As a young adult, I assumed that those considerably older than me had the experience and maturity to handle life’s difficult situations. I quickly learned this was not the case at all. Losing my soul mate…
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