Category: Giving Support

  • Winter Rain

    Winter Rain

    It’s December in St. Louis, Missouri.  Winter has arrived.  With the winter comes days of winter rain.  In years past, my wife and I actually enjoyed days like today (when we did not have to get outside).  I’d light a fire. We’d make some tea or coffee, and just be together. Many people find days […]

  • Imposters Syndrome – Overcoming Self-Doubts

    Imposters Syndrome – Overcoming Self-Doubts

    Robin Williams, Richard Nixon, Oprah Winfrey, Ernest Hemingway, Vincent Van Gogh, Marilyn Monroe, John Steinbeck, George Washington, John F Kennedy, Abraham Lincoln, and many others struggled with their self-esteem and thought themselves imposters at some point during their lifetime. Why do so many successful people struggle emotionally and psychologically? Why do they often feel that […]

  • Grief and the Workplace

    Grief and the Workplace

    David Knapp “Take as long as you need,” the memo read.  My boss’s signature followed. When I met with the administration board of the school I was teaching at and explained that Ruth’s death was imminent, their hearts were breaking, as was mine.  After a long silence, one said, “Take as long as you need, […]

  • The Fourth Turn

    The Fourth Turn

    By Michael K. Burroughs I had just turned 71 when my dear wife, Jan, passed away.  We were four months shy of our 52nd Anniversary.  Her doctors never expected her to make it to our 50th, following her third stroke that made her an invalid.  They expected another stroke at any time, as she had […]

  • “If You Feel You are in a black hole, don’t give up. There’s A Way Out” – Stephen Hawking

    “If You Feel You are in a black hole, don’t give up. There’s A Way Out” – Stephen Hawking

    by Tom Peyton Stephen Hawking, the English theoretical physicist, was probably one of the greatest minds ever to exist.  My feeble mind could never attempt to understand the workings of this genius, but a few of his famous quotes always inspired me.  What strikes me about the passage mentioned above is that Hawking believed something […]

  • The Stupid Things They Say

    The Stupid Things They Say

    by Dr. David Knapp PhD One big question concerning loss we all encounter regularly is “What do yo say to a friend or loved one when they experience severe loss?”      I learned from personal experience that few would-be comforters are comfortable with helpful statements like “Your heart must be hurting right now.” Many have […]

  • So Tied To You

    So Tied To You

    My late wife, Jan, loved music.  Her tastes in music varied widely.  We began dating in 1969, on the tail end of the fabulous 60s era of music.  Our first decade of marriage was the 70s.  The best songs of that era stayed with us throughout her life, as they reminded us of happy times […]

  • “I’ll be Looking for You”

    “I’ll be Looking for You”

    Shortly before my wife Darlene died in October 2010, we were talking after our final visit with her oncologist. This is how I described it later. On our drive home, we had one of the more significant conversations of our lives. We probably talked about small matters and medical decisions part of the way home, […]

  • Widower Wearing Wedding Ring Sparks Huge Discussion

    Widower Wearing Wedding Ring Sparks Huge Discussion

    Recently I was asked to contribute to a discussion on this topic that attracted over 4,500 online comments. The topic was launched by a woman who confronted a widower about his wearing a wedding band eight months after his wife passed. The following article was featured on Bored Panda, an international online publication. Woman Confused […]

  • The Grief Club:  My strength and hope

    The Grief Club:  My strength and hope

                                                               I never imagined that I would be a member of this group at age sixty-three. It’s a group no one wants to join, but circumstances, the loss of a loved one, put me into this club. You and I are part of a group of strangers, most of whom we would never have […]