Category: Health

  • ACCEPTING LIFE AS A WIDOWER: THE 30 MONTH MARK

    ACCEPTING LIFE AS A WIDOWER: THE 30 MONTH MARK

    I lost my wife Mary in January 2020. At the time I didn’t know how I’d move forward. My journey continues, on a road paved by acceptance. January 2020 was when my beloved wife, friend, soulmate, and rock of 33 years, Mary, passed away after a brave fight against cancer. PERSONAL COMMUNITY After Mary’s death, […]

  • The View from the Other Side of the Mirror

    The View from the Other Side of the Mirror

    First, Happy New Year, Brothers. Many of you have just experienced the first holiday season without your loved one; for others, welcome to January. For many, the start of the new year serves as a time to set new goals or make new resolutions. I have taken this time to take a clear look at […]

  • New Year – New You – New Relationships?

    New Year – New You – New Relationships?

    Often after our wives pass, some other crisis will come along that shakes us and causes us to confront our current state of thinking about our life going forward. This may be just what is needed to wake us and point us into a more promising future. While being prepped for an emergency hernia operation […]

  • Pathfinder

    Pathfinder

    To a man, we are stepping into Christmas with much trepidation or resignation.  Without our wives, it is, for some, a terrible time and, for others, at best, a melancholy time.  For me, this year will be melancholy.  But I told my grief therapist today (whom I still see twice a month) that there is […]

  • It’s the Holiday Season, and Grief doesn’t take a break

    It’s the Holiday Season, and Grief doesn’t take a break

    Yes, it is that time of the year again.  It’s when family and friends gather to celebrate the special days: Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, and Kwanzaa, punctuated by office parties, friends gathering to share a meal, some drinks, and a bunch of laughs and lots of good times.  They are described in word and song as […]

  • Game Plan…for a Better Tomorrow

    Game Plan…for a Better Tomorrow

    The end of the year can be a tricky time for many people. The current state you are in may, at times, give way to the propensity to judge your entire existence by your present circumstances. Among the many teachings, I have been affected by is Dr. Eric Stoltz’s teaching “The Adversity Quotient.” When I […]

  • To Overcome Grief – One Needs to Address All Facets of Life

    To Overcome Grief – One Needs to Address All Facets of Life

    For nearly 14 years, I have dedicated my life to the service of widowers worldwide, and during that time, I have learned much about what it takes to recover from male grief.  From the widower’s mental and physical health to their financial health, ensuring their career is stable, and their relationships with their children, in-laws, […]

  • Autumn Leaves

    Autumn Leaves

    In some of my previous articles, I mentioned how  I was a member of some cover bands during my teenage years.  It was the sixties.  Growing up in Nashville, the influence of country music surrounded me, yet it did not interest me.  I was a big Beach Boys and Beatles fan (among others).  Yet, to […]

  • Imposters Syndrome – Overcoming Self-Doubts

    Imposters Syndrome – Overcoming Self-Doubts

    Robin Williams, Richard Nixon, Oprah Winfrey, Ernest Hemingway, Vincent Van Gogh, Marilyn Monroe, John Steinbeck, George Washington, John F Kennedy, Abraham Lincoln, and many others struggled with their self-esteem and thought themselves imposters at some point during their lifetime. Why do so many successful people struggle emotionally and psychologically? Why do they often feel that […]

  • Grief and the Workplace

    Grief and the Workplace

    David Knapp “Take as long as you need,” the memo read.  My boss’s signature followed. When I met with the administration board of the school I was teaching at and explained that Ruth’s death was imminent, their hearts were breaking, as was mine.  After a long silence, one said, “Take as long as you need, […]