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Just a Note of Thanks
My dear brothers, we have come to the time of year for many of us called the holiday season. For many of you are entering this season for the first time without your loved one. To those of you that are, you have my heartfelt prayers. Recently as the year moves toward a close, I…
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Going it Alone
My dear brothers, of the many things I was not prepared for when becoming a widower, finding a satisfying relationship with another woman has proved to be the most daunting. For those of you that have found either a meaningful relationship or true love again, I salute you. Me, not so fortunate so far. For…
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Strengthen What Remains
My dear Brothers. Over the past three plus years, I have had the privilege of sharing my thoughts with you. I have found this opportunity to be a tremendous honor. But as many things in life, I find it time to move forward with other projects and priorities in my life. Herb has honored me…
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Hello: Is Anyone Still Out There?
Recently, I have gone through a personal inventory. Of the many aspects of my life, I have looked at is the quality of the relationships in my life. I am sure like many other people you hear the phrase, “ you can call me anytime”. Except when you chose to call. Let’s have lunch, “except…
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Bonds That Are Never Broken
During a recent conversation with a widowed friend, I reflected on some of the unexpected roles we may inherit upon becoming widowers. One of which I hold especially dear is being the curator of my wife Robyn’s and my love. Often, we are accused of deifying our loved ones after their death. In many cases,…
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The View from the Other Side of the Mirror
First, Happy New Year, Brothers. Many of you have just experienced the first holiday season without your loved one; for others, welcome to January. For many, the start of the new year serves as a time to set new goals or make new resolutions. I have taken this time to take a clear look at…
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Why?
This brief but powerful question has crossed our minds or been voiced out loud in this journey we have come to know as grief. Whether your loss came without warning or resulted from a long and protracted illness, why is a question that has or continues to cross our minds? Asking this all too familiar…
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Game Plan…for a Better Tomorrow
The end of the year can be a tricky time for many people. The current state you are in may, at times, give way to the propensity to judge your entire existence by your present circumstances. Among the many teachings, I have been affected by is Dr. Eric Stoltz’s teaching “The Adversity Quotient.” When I…
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Courage at the Crossroads
My dear brothers, recently, I found myself experiencing another visit to an all too familiar place, “the crossroads.” First, let me give you a little background about how I choose to navigate life. I strongly believe in the practice of dividing my life into three distinct silos, my personal life, my spiritual life, and my…
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Why I Divorced My Grief
by Terrell L. Whitener My dear brothers, recently I decided to get a divorce. The actual divorce was not between myself and another person but with emotion, I had carried for far too long. That emotion was grief. Realistically, our grief will always assume some space in our existence; however, in my case, I decided…
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