Author: Terrell Whitener

  • Why I Divorced My Grief

    Why I Divorced My Grief

    by Terrell L. Whitener My dear brothers, recently I decided to get a divorce.  The actual divorce was not between myself and another person but with emotion, I had carried for far too long.  That emotion was grief. Realistically, our grief will always assume some space in our existence; however, in my case, I decided […]

  • Finding the Courage to Love Again

    Finding the Courage to Love Again

    Dear brothers, like many of you, I celebrated that we have reached the 1900-member mark in the Widowers Support Network. Wow, we have come a long way. Upon reading that news, the fact that this also represents 1900 broken hearts, countless tears, and dreams unrealized. As I sit down to exercise the privilege of deciding […]

  • A Shout Out to Everyone Trying Right Now

    A Shout Out to Everyone Trying Right Now

    A couple of weeks ago, Brother Larry Ahrens shared a brief thought from SC Laurie titled “A Shout Out to Everyone Trying Right Now.” This amazingly well-put-together thought was also written about so poignantly last week by Brother Tom Peyton. At that time, I posed the idea with Tom about offering articles built around this […]

  • Home for the Holidays? Finding my “New Normal”

    Home for the Holidays? Finding my “New Normal”

    My Dear Brothers, For the last article that I have the privilege of sharing with you this year, I want to share the article that started it all for me. In 2015, the Heartland Hospice Association asked me to contribute an article for their Holiday Newsletter. With Herb’s indulgence and your patience, I would like […]

  • My 7th Christmas

    My 7th Christmas

    This year I will be experiencing my 7th Christmas without my wife Robyn. Every year our house would transform into a continuous theme of the current or upcoming holiday. Now most of those decorations remain in the basement and my annual complaint of having to haul the countless crates from the basement are no more. […]

  • A Village of One

    A Village of One

    A Village of One I will soon experience my 7th Christmas without my wife, Robyn. With December having arrived, my residence that would have been transformed by Robyn into a Winter Wonderland remains unchanged. While I have plans to decorate, the result, while acceptable, will be missing a key component, her charm. Brothers, we have […]

  • Home For the Holidays: 2021 Edition

    Home For the Holidays: 2021 Edition

    This year I will be experiencing my 7th Christmas without my wife, Robyn. Every year our house would transform into a continuous theme of the current or upcoming holiday. Now, most of those decorations remain in the basement, and my annual complaint of having to haul the countless crates from the basement is no more. […]

  • After They Are Gone

    After They Are Gone

    There are many lessons that I have learned from my late wife long after she has left this earth. There are times that it takes on a cruel irony, and at other times it is a source of great comfort. However, throughout this process, I have come to realize that these lessons have become one […]

  • Finishing Strong

    Finishing Strong

    Several years ago, when contemplating retirement, I published an article titled “Finishing Strong.” While this article focused on the mechanisms for preparing for life after work, it also gave recommendations for navigating the far too often experience of being both too expensive and becoming somewhat marginalized in the workplace. In some ways, if not experienced […]

  • Grief Lessons: From the Rolling Stones

    Grief Lessons: From the Rolling Stones

    Recently, I had the pleasure of checking off one of the items on my personal “bucket list.” That was to attend a Rolling Stones concert. Little did I know as my son and I settled into our seats that not only would I witness a fantastic concert but get an up-close and personal lesson on […]