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No More Dreams
I think I saw a miracle… alive and walking free ~ My heat wants to believe it’s true; but, it can’t really ‘be’; Yet, at the time, it seemed so real… and I could see your ‘smile’ – and then I worke and knew that I had dreamed it all the while. I tried so…
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QUICK HITTERS # 8
Quick Hitters are brief responses to Questions posed by author Fred Colby to his fellow WSN contributors. They offer a variety of perspectives on some of the most challenging questions facing new widowers. Enjoy. Quick Hitter Question #8: When should I consider signing up for Grief Therapy or a Grief Group? How can this help…
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Grief cannot be fixed, but you can adapt to a new way of living.
I had the pleasure of speaking to a grief support group in New York City just before Christmas, and I offered them some ways to deal with grief during the holidays. Several of the participants in the group asked me if grief ever goes away. I used the sage words offered by the late Kennedy…
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IN HER NAME
When our wives pass, we often ask, “How can we remember, honor, and love them going forward?” That is a huge question for many of us. The answer often plays a significant role in processing and healing our grief. If all we do is hide in our homes and scream, cry, and suffer alone while…
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It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year unless you are Dealing with Loss
Step into your car, turn the radio on, and I almost guarantee every station is playing holiday music. Walk into a grocery store, a shopping mall, Home Depot, fast food places, and most banks or even the post office, and you will hear holiday songs filling the air. I chose the Andy Williams song for…
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We Are Worthy!!
Whether quoting from Wayne’s World or the Bible, the phrase “I am not worthy” may describe how we feel at times after our wives pass away. A ritual of self-condemnation and feelings of inadequacy often overwhelm us, especially when we are alone. It is so easy to fall into a pattern of blaming ourselves or…
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QUICK HITTERS # 5
Quick Hitters are brief responses to Questions posed by author Fred Colby to his fellow WSN contributors. They offer a variety of perspectives on some of the most challenging questions facing new widowers. Enjoy. Quick Hitter Question #5: Is it okay to Bury Myself in Projects or Work to Avoid Grieving? Jesse Brisendine: Staying busy…
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Death takes a Life but does not take away Love.
Every three months, I facilitate a bereavement support group for my church via Zoom; anywhere from 8 to 12 people show up. Some have recently lost a loved one; others are further along in the journey of grief and are trying to gain peace and comfort; one or two want to continue to benefit…
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Angry and Grateful At the Same Time?
Just try to be angry and grateful at the same time. Hard, isn’t it? It isn’t easy because focusing on one interferes with your ability to do the other. Once we get past the numbness after our wife passes, we usually sink into a period of deep grieving that may last months or even years.…
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Reminiscing – does it hurt, or does it heal?
How often have people tried to console you after losing your loved one with the cliché, “Thank God you have your memories?” My memories were my worst nightmare! They were a constant reminder of my loss. They brought me no consolation. Yet, for others they browse through pictures and videos reliving precious moments. Each of…
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