Category: Giving Support

  • How to find joy again

    How to find joy again

    “Am I a joy to be around?” Many people seek joy in their lives and wonder why they don’t attract it. In widowhood, it’s easy to get locked in a downward cycle. The less joy you feel, the more hopeless things can look. You may long to be rescued from this (by yourself or by […]

  • Widower: Anger – Fight It or Accept It?

    Widower: Anger – Fight It or Accept It?

    Shortly after my wife’s death, I went to the mountains by myself for a week and screamed as loud and often as I wanted to. But now, 3 ½ years later, I no longer feel the intensity of anger I felt then. I soon forget how easy it was to cut myself off from others […]

  • Fear-some Firsts

    Fear-some Firsts

    How to get through those hard anniversaries… that horrible first year I called them the “fierce-some firsts”:  First Valentine’s Day.  First Thanksgiving. First Christmas. First birthday (his). My birthday First birthday (the children’s). First “day we met”. First wedding anniversary. First angle-versary (anniversary of death). During that first year, as these “firsts” approached, I’d count […]

  • Rediscovering Your Radar

    Rediscovering Your Radar

    Since becoming a widower, one of the most humbling discoveries that I have made is the fact that I know very little about women. While I grew to know my wife as well as I could know anyone, I simultaneously disconnected my radar associated with the pursuit of other relationships. While that was the proper […]

  • Widower: Grieving Can Weaken or Strengthen Your Family

    Widower: Grieving Can Weaken or Strengthen Your Family

    As I sank into deep grieving after my wife’s death, I became increasingly concerned about my sanity and ability to make sound decisions. At times the world around me seemed surreal, my short and long term memory became suspect, and I often just wanted to shut the door on everyone and just hide in my […]

  • What are you going to be doing on New Year’s Eve?

    What are you going to be doing on New Year’s Eve?

    WSN-MO: The Perfect Catch  WSN-MO Dating and Relationship Coach, Christine Baumgartner asks…  What are you going to be doing on New Year’s Eve?  I’ve been talking about the holiday season and widowhood for the past couple weeks. In those articles, I haven’t included the New Year’s celebration because it often impacts people differently than the […]

  • Proactive steps to help get you through the holidays

    Proactive steps to help get you through the holidays

    Proactive Steps to help get you through the holidays Last week I talked about the holiday season and widowhood: About the widower who says with tears in his eyes, “Christmas was always her thing”.  About the grieving widow who tells me “he was such a big part of our family’s Hanukkah traditions”. Depending on how […]

  • Grief Recovery Programs Need to Include Action Plans

    Grief Recovery Programs Need to Include Action Plans

     Herb Knoll Author of the New Book, The Widower’s Journey http://www.WidowersSupportNetwork.com It’s no wonder so many people fail to complete grief counseling sessions that take place over a period of several weeks, with many attendees opting to bail out of such programs after just a week or two.  Why? I believe one of the reasons […]

  • An Excerpt from The Widower’s Journey: Appendix III – Support From Pets

    An Excerpt from The Widower’s Journey: Appendix III – Support From Pets

    When considering what actions widowed men can take in hopes of accelerating their healing, they may only have to reach down to the pet seated beside them. I witnessed the power of pets often during Michelle’s illness, especially during the final hours of her life when her son Jacques carried each of Michelle’s three golden […]

  • Widowers – Forced to Live in the Shadows

    Widowers – Forced to Live in the Shadows

    By Herb Knoll, Author: The Widower’s Journey When asked, few people can name even one man who has been widowed.  But given a few moments for additional consideration, many are likely to say, “Oh wait a minute, I do know one.  He lives down the street or works with me at my office.” When I […]