Author: Cynthia Mascarenhas

  • Gratitude as a weapon against grief and anxiety! 

    Gratitude as a weapon against grief and anxiety! 

    On the verge of Thanksgiving, it would be apropos to discuss GRATITUDE as a means to counter GRIEF.  These two antithetical sentiments are not innate to a widow or widower.     Gratitude is a decision to consciously be aware of the positive in your life, notwithstanding all the negative and painful aspects. Grief will […]

  • Grief and the Holidays

    Cynthia talks about how to best navigate grief as the holidays approach. She shares helpful tips for both the grieving person as well as their friends and family.

  • Avoidance is a big part of dealing with Grief, Trauma and Despair.

    Avoidance is a big part of dealing with Grief, Trauma and Despair.

    by Cynthia Mascarenhas RN, LNCC While your immediate grief response is a fear that you will forget, your immediate trauma response is a fear that you will always remember; the reality is daily you work hard to not remember – the person you loved and lost or the person who failed to love you and […]

  • Do We Ever Live Again? Or Do We Just Exist?

    Do We Ever Live Again?     Or Do We Just Exist?

    by Cynthia Mascarenhas Life drags on. In one sense, it is mundane. In another, it is so full of unpredictability. Unexpected emotional peaks and troughs. Unexpected challenges to our emotional, psychological, and physical health. The inability to envision a future, dream, plan, and have a sense of excitement. An overwhelming sense of despair characterizes each […]

  • I Have Called You In Righteousness

    I Have Called You In Righteousness

    I have called you in righteousness. I will hold you by the hand and watch over you. Your life will be a light to others. God’s purpose in creating you and calling you to Himself is that you will reflect His glory. I declare new things over you. Sing to the Lord a new song.  […]

  • Death, Disease , Divorce

    Death, Disease , Divorce

    #death #Disease #Divorce – they leave us with painful memories of traumatic moments. Yet, we must find a way to grab life by the horns and keep living, not merely existing but truly living. Words to live by: Remember…. But do not forget to keep moving forward. Or as my husband will say, “It is […]

  • Joy Comes In the Morning

    Joy Comes In the Morning

    WSN: Death, Disease, Divorce By Cynthia Mascarenhas Waits The single biggest challenge one is faced with after experiencing the death of a loved one, the crippling emotional and physical ramifications of a disease, or the devastation of divorce is the decision to “move on” or “move forward.” While many extraneous factors come into play, our […]

  • A Widow’s Perspective: Grief Talk

    A Widow’s Perspective: Grief Talk

    The Phantom Spouse-myth or reality? It has been said, “Losing a spouse is like losing a limb.”; let’s explore the validity of this statement. Drawing from my personal experience, the similarities are uncanny. Both situations leave you without something or someone vital to your survival; that is unequivocal. After an amputation, an amputee continues to […]

  • Trust, you must. Can you?

    Trust, you must. Can you?

    “But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him. They will be like a tree planted by the water that sends out its roots by the stream. It does not fear when heat comes; its leaves are always green. It has no worries in a year of drought and […]

  • WSN: A Widowers Perspective

    WSN: A Widowers Perspective

    Romans 8:28: And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to His purpose.  What could possibly be ‘good’ about experiencing any one of the 3 Ds?  One comment I heard most as a new widow was, “Something good will come out […]