Author: Terrell Whitener

  • After They Are Gone

    After They Are Gone

    There are many lessons that I have learned from my late wife long after she has left this earth. There are times that it takes on a cruel irony, and at other times it is a source of great comfort. However, throughout this process, I have come to realize that these lessons have become one […]

  • Finishing Strong

    Finishing Strong

    Several years ago, when contemplating retirement, I published an article titled “Finishing Strong.” While this article focused on the mechanisms for preparing for life after work, it also gave recommendations for navigating the far too often experience of being both too expensive and becoming somewhat marginalized in the workplace. In some ways, if not experienced […]

  • Grief Lessons: From the Rolling Stones

    Grief Lessons: From the Rolling Stones

    Recently, I had the pleasure of checking off one of the items on my personal “bucket list.” That was to attend a Rolling Stones concert. Little did I know as my son and I settled into our seats that not only would I witness a fantastic concert but get an up-close and personal lesson on […]

  • The Best Game in Town

    The Best Game in Town

    by Terrell Whitener For those of us that are sports fans here in the United States, we have just turned the page on the calendar to include a very important date, American Football Season!!!! It’s something about the energy of crowds, the pageantry of the colors and tradition, the beginning of the slowing down from […]

  • Crossroads

    Crossroads

    Throughout my six years of being a widower, I have faced several times that I have been at a crossroads when it comes to making decisions about my future.Do I move, relocate to another city, pursue this relationship are all among the crossroads decisions that have entered my thoughts. Recently, I have found myself at […]

  • Letter to An Old Friend

    Letter to An Old Friend

    Recently, while doing my dishes, I decided to take the time to write a letter to an old friend. Though we have had the opportunity to talk here and there, it always seems like the thoughts shared are just fleeting most of the time. I find that one of the best ways of catching up […]

  • Managing those Difficult Days

    Managing those Difficult Days

    Many if not most of us find some days more difficult than others. For some it may be a birthday, or an anniversary, yet for others it may be a song or even the house you live in that can be the basis of these feelings. For me, the most complex day of the year […]

  • Managing those Difficult Days

    Managing those Difficult Days

    Many if not most of us find some days more difficult than others. For some it may be a birthday, or an anniversary, yet for others it may be a song or even the house you live in that can be the basis of these feelings. For me, the most complex day of the year […]

  • Brothers: We Still Have a Purpose

    Brothers: We Still Have a Purpose

    For many of you, this title strikes you as a bit rhetorical. For others, you may take one look and discount this notion entirely. My brothers welcome to one of the many complex aspects of being a widower. Early in my widowhood, I found myself completely unprepared to deal with the difficulty I had with […]

  • Widowhood Love and the BAE Phenomenon

    Widowhood Love and the BAE Phenomenon

    WSN-MO: A Few Minutes with Terrell Whitener Next month I will experience the sixth anniversary of my wife Robyn’s death. Over the almost two years that I have had the privilege of sharing my thoughts with you brothers, I have admitted that I have discovered that I feel that I know very little about women. […]