Category: Widower Awareness

  • Younger Widowers and Tuition

    Younger Widowers and Tuition

    A young widow wondered: How can I ever pay their tuition? WILL BEING A PARENT ON YOUR OWN PUT YOUR CHILDREN’S FUTURE EDUCATION AT RISK? My kids’ post-secondary educations were taken care of well before my wife died. Younger solo parents may be far less prepared. When Mary passed away in 2020, my kids were…

  • Lessons I Learned from A Man Called Otto

    Lessons I Learned from A Man Called Otto

    Two weeks ago, I decided to go to the movies and see the new film A Man Called Otto, starring Tom Hanks.  Hanks has the title role based on a Swedish film called A Man Called Ove.  I read many reviews and saw a mixed bag of comments, from disappointment in Tom Hanks; to dislike…

  • New Year – New You – New Relationships?

    New Year – New You – New Relationships?

    Often after our wives pass, some other crisis will come along that shakes us and causes us to confront our current state of thinking about our life going forward. This may be just what is needed to wake us and point us into a more promising future. While being prepped for an emergency hernia operation…

  • Each One, Help One

    Each One, Help One

    “Don’t hoard your lessons!” Those words hammered into the back of my mind one day, about three months after my second wife died.  By then, I’d been asked to share my grief journey.  Contrary, or maybe not, to what one may think, it came pretty easy to talk about and was beneficial to me.  I…

  • Imposters Syndrome – Overcoming Self-Doubts

    Imposters Syndrome – Overcoming Self-Doubts

    Robin Williams, Richard Nixon, Oprah Winfrey, Ernest Hemingway, Vincent Van Gogh, Marilyn Monroe, John Steinbeck, George Washington, John F Kennedy, Abraham Lincoln, and many others struggled with their self-esteem and thought themselves imposters at some point during their lifetime. Why do so many successful people struggle emotionally and psychologically? Why do they often feel that…

  • The Stupid Things They Say

    The Stupid Things They Say

    by Dr. David Knapp PhD One big question concerning loss we all encounter regularly is “What do yo say to a friend or loved one when they experience severe loss?”      I learned from personal experience that few would-be comforters are comfortable with helpful statements like “Your heart must be hurting right now.” Many have…

  • So Tied To You

    So Tied To You

    My late wife, Jan, loved music.  Her tastes in music varied widely.  We began dating in 1969, on the tail end of the fabulous 60s era of music.  Our first decade of marriage was the 70s.  The best songs of that era stayed with us throughout her life, as they reminded us of happy times…

  • “I’ll be Looking for You”

    “I’ll be Looking for You”

    Shortly before my wife Darlene died in October 2010, we were talking after our final visit with her oncologist. This is how I described it later. On our drive home, we had one of the more significant conversations of our lives. We probably talked about small matters and medical decisions part of the way home,…

  • Widower Wearing Wedding Ring Sparks Huge Discussion

    Widower Wearing Wedding Ring Sparks Huge Discussion

    Recently I was asked to contribute to a discussion on this topic that attracted over 4,500 online comments. The topic was launched by a woman who confronted a widower about his wearing a wedding band eight months after his wife passed. The following article was featured on Bored Panda, an international online publication. Woman Confused…

  • WHAT TO SAY, NOT SAY, AND I SAY …. TO A NEW WIDOWER

    WHAT TO SAY, NOT SAY, AND I SAY …. TO A NEW WIDOWER

    I recently was asked during a radio interview to summarize my advice to the friends and family of a widower on what to say or not say to them. The following are some highlights of our conversation. WHAT TO SAY TO A NEW WIDOWER I often recommend you start off by asking the widower to…

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