“Sometimes our healing happens when we change the way we relate to the things that will not change” – Vienna Pharaon

By Tom Peyton As I mentioned in a previous column, I receive daily inspirational quotes, and this one arrived not only from the site that sends them but forwarded as well from a high school classmate to me. They are both asking me to examine the quote and unravel its meaning. I will give itContinue reading ““Sometimes our healing happens when we change the way we relate to the things that will not change” – Vienna Pharaon”

Herb Knoll Honors His Journey And Becomes the Unintentional Widower Whisperer

It started as a step toward healing himself…became a book, a podcast and a ministry. As a bank executive, Herb Knoll was known as a man who could get the job done. But when Knoll lost his wife to cancer he found no resources to help him recover. The more he learned about the plightContinue reading “Herb Knoll Honors His Journey And Becomes the Unintentional Widower Whisperer”

I feel at ease in the arms of the world now…

There is a song that, for the last several weeks, has been on constant loop in my mind. It’s Amos Lee’s “Arms of a Woman.” In the song, he sings, “I am at ease in the arms of a woman. But most of my days, I spend alone.” Now as widowers, we can all relateContinue reading “I feel at ease in the arms of the world now…”

No Such Thing As Closure

There is closure on real estate deals, businesses deals, etc. but there is no such thing as closure on a relationship. Closure means the end of a deal. It’s done, over, completed. All conditions have been met. No more expectations that need to be fulfilled. Closure relates to deals, not life, not relationships. As farContinue reading “No Such Thing As Closure”

Don’t Expect Others to Know What to Do Following Your Loss

Following the passing of a wife or life-partner, it is the widower who needs support, not the deceased. So why is it that so many widowed men complain about their sense of abandonment by their families, friends, neighbors, and co-workers following their loss? Behaviors and interactions with those who you would hope would be ofContinue reading “Don’t Expect Others to Know What to Do Following Your Loss”