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  • Dreams

    Dreams

    Dreams have fascinated mankind since long before Joseph’s dreams in the Old Testament saved Egypt from an agricultural disaster. Dreams continue to fascinate us, though there is no settled scientific or psychological agreement on exactly what they are. When my wife was alive, we often told each other our dreams the next morning. My dreams […]

  • Widower Wearing Wedding Ring Sparks Huge Discussion

    Widower Wearing Wedding Ring Sparks Huge Discussion

    Recently I was asked to contribute to a discussion on this topic that attracted over 4,500 online comments. The topic was launched by a woman who confronted a widower about his wearing a wedding band eight months after his wife passed. The following article was featured on Bored Panda, an international online publication. Woman Confused […]

  • My 7th Christmas

    My 7th Christmas

    This year I will be experiencing my 7th Christmas without my wife Robyn. Every year our house would transform into a continuous theme of the current or upcoming holiday. Now most of those decorations remain in the basement and my annual complaint of having to haul the countless crates from the basement are no more. […]

  • Which Internet dating site is the “best” one?

    Which Internet dating site is the “best” one?

    When I speak to groups or talk to new clients, I can count on hearing questions about dating sites; which one should I use and which is the “best” one? Over the years,I’ve come to understand what they’re really asking is: (1) Where are the good people? (2) Where will I meet the person of […]

  • Life Lives On

    Life Lives On

    Song: Life Lives OnPerformed by: Kim ParentWritten by: Ken Harrell Produced by: Herb KnollLyric Video by: Shane Farmer / REMRAF LLChttp://[email protected] PLEASE HELP Herb Knoll has produced a song titled; “Life Lives On.” It is intended to encourage people to donate organs during this season of giving. Herb’s friends, in Nashville, Ken Harrell wrote the […]

  • “Love You Different”

    “Love You Different”

    Like many men who have lost a wife, Herb Knoll did not believe he could ever love again. Of course, this was long before he met his wife, Maria. One night, it occurred to Herb how, should he ever fall in love again, it might well be with a widow, especially given his age. This […]

  • Anticipatory Grief – An Early On-Ramp to One’s Grief Journey

    Anticipatory Grief – An Early On-Ramp to One’s Grief Journey

    By Herb Knoll Author: The Widower’s Journey Loss of a spouse or a life partner can occur suddenly, as in the case of a drug overdose, an auto accident, or someone falling down a flight of stairs. Some spouses are lost to their families following a prolonged illness such as cancer, dementia, or Multiple Sclerosis, […]

  • The jury is still out

    The jury is still out

    Loss of a spouse or a life partner can occur suddenly, as in the case of a drug overdose, an auto accident, or someone falling down a flight of stairs. Some spouses are lost to their families following a prolonged illness such as cancer, dementia, or Multiple Sclerosis, leaving the door open for survivors to […]

  • The Best Game In Town

    The Best Game In Town

    by Terrell Whitener To be successful in American football, you must execute a plan successfully to win the game like any other sport. Our grief in many ways requires that we do the same thing to learn to live a healthy, happy, and productive life. Yes, it will never be the same again for many […]

  • Showing up to Grief

    Showing up to Grief

    By Tom Peyton The filmmaker Woody Allen is credited with the saying, “80 percent of success is simply showing up.” Over time it got changed to 90 percent. The percentage is not essential; instead, the two simple words: showing up to me are most important. I am almost 15 months into the Widowers’ Journey. At […]