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I don’t know what to say; Is there a way I can help?
I have several friends I often speak with, and I must preface that they have been highly supportive since my wife died over two years ago. I appreciate the meals, the invitations to parties, and the opportunities to socialize with them, but there is this feeling of discomfort every time we get together. There is…
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The Fourth Turn
By Michael K. Burroughs I had just turned 71 when my dear wife, Jan, passed away. We were four months shy of our 52nd Anniversary. Her doctors never expected her to make it to our 50th, following her third stroke that made her an invalid. They expected another stroke at any time, as she had…
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Loneliness after loss…It just adds to the pain and suffering.
By Jay Deutsch We met when we were both 18. We were both kids running from our childhood traumas. It was 𝓛𝓸𝓿𝓮 at first sight for both of us and we spent all of our time together. Since she suffered from anxiety, depression, and mental illness there was little she wanted to do without me…
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Why I Divorced My Grief
by Terrell L. Whitener My dear brothers, recently I decided to get a divorce. The actual divorce was not between myself and another person but with emotion, I had carried for far too long. That emotion was grief. Realistically, our grief will always assume some space in our existence; however, in my case, I decided…
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The Season of Fall and All Its Opportunities
By Tom Peyton For meteorologists, September 1st marks the beginning of Fall. For most parents, September means a return to school for their children, and for most people, a return to the routines of the Fall season. For those in the world of grief and loss, the season can trigger the loss, pain, and sadness…
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So Tied To You
My late wife, Jan, loved music. Her tastes in music varied widely. We began dating in 1969, on the tail end of the fabulous 60s era of music. Our first decade of marriage was the 70s. The best songs of that era stayed with us throughout her life, as they reminded us of happy times…
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The World after You and Me
Question to Consider: What will the world be like after I’m gone? A History Channel program would showdetails of the likely events on earth if humans were to disappear suddenly. The program starts with the lives of the surviving animals and plants. It moves on to the breakdown of power plants and water supplies and…
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Grief opens the mind to that we cannot explain
Last week Larry Aherns, one of our brother’s shared a short inspirational piece entitled: “A shout out to everyone who is trying right now” by S.C. Lourie. Lourie is an author and blogger from the U.K. who writes of hope to all who have suffered a loss. She suffered a miscarriage a few years ago…
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A Village of One
A Village of One I will soon experience my 7th Christmas without my wife, Robyn. With December having arrived, my residence that would have been transformed by Robyn into a Winter Wonderland remains unchanged. While I have plans to decorate, the result, while acceptable, will be missing a key component, her charm. Brothers, we have…
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Surviving the Holiday Abyss
Everyone will start to tell you within a week of your wife’s passing that you must steel yourself against the trauma of upcoming special days and holidays. We each are likely to have very different experiences during these special days. Much of your reaction will depend upon how important and memorable each of those days…
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