About a week ago I saw an interview conducted with Steven Roberts husband, widower and best- selling author of a new book about his late wife Cokie Roberts entitled Cokie Roberts: A Life Well Lived. At the start of the interview the interviewer spoke about the impact Cokie Roberts had on her lifeContinue reading ” Thankful for a Life Well Lived”
Author Archives: Tom Peyton
Transitional Objects
Last week I saw a story on the news about a woman who lost her 94-year-old father after he battled an illness for a short time. The woman reflected on the task that many of us have dreaded: sorting through her father’s belongings and then deciding what and to whom you want to give them.Continue reading “Transitional Objects”
The Fall Season -Nature is Splendiferous!
Splendiferous is a real word that captures the essence of the Fall season. It speaks of the beauty, glamour, majesty, and any adjective you can think of that describes the magnificence of the season. I am blessed to live in Upstate New York. The fall season is the best time of the year. For myContinue reading “The Fall Season -Nature is Splendiferous!”
The Healing Power of a Group
by Tom Peytom Recently I met with an old friend I worked with many years ago at a diner near my home for dinner. We were both excited since I had not seen him in about five years. During our dinner, he asked the question that so many friends and acquaintances often pose to me;Continue reading “The Healing Power of a Group”
What do I do with my loved one’s clothing
It’s the question we widowers and widows must one day face. It is like the other questions we encounter as we move forward in life. Do I continue to wear my wedding ring? Do I stay in my house or apartment or move to another place of residence? Do I choose to date or chooseContinue reading “What do I do with my loved one’s clothing”
“Sometimes our healing happens when we change the way we relate to the things that will not change” – Vienna Pharaon
By Tom Peyton As I mentioned in a previous column, I receive daily inspirational quotes, and this one arrived not only from the site that sends them but forwarded as well from a high school classmate to me. They are both asking me to examine the quote and unravel its meaning. I will give itContinue reading ““Sometimes our healing happens when we change the way we relate to the things that will not change” – Vienna Pharaon”
A Ship Is Safe in a Harbor; but that’s not what a Ship is for.” – John A. Shedd
By Tom Peyton I am not sure how it happened but somehow, I signed up to receive daily inspirational quotes from a company on the internet. The quotes are often thought – provoking and some are quite funny. Its better than getting phone calls and emails that my automobile warranty is expiring. Last week IContinue reading “A Ship Is Safe in a Harbor; but that’s not what a Ship is for.” – John A. Shedd”
I will not let Grief control me!
On Friday March 12th, 2021, my family and I along with some friends gathered at a funeral home in in Brooklyn NY to honor, remember and show our love to my brother-in -law. My late wife’s oldest brother and the last survivor of her family passed away after a battle with throat cancer. Our serviceContinue reading “I will not let Grief control me!”
Is It Possible to Befriend Grief?
by Tom Peyton For the past several months my grief counselor has encouraged me to look at grief from a different perspective. Instead of allowing it at times to crush my spirit, to hit me with an avalanche of tears or overwhelm me with sadness and pain, he suggested I view it as a friend.Continue reading “Is It Possible to Befriend Grief?”
Can you see and be the Lights?
On January 20th, 2021 a precocious 22-year-old African -American woman told a divided and grief-stricken nation “We can grow as we Grieve”. I like most people was awe-struck by her profound wisdom that far exceeds her youth. My purpose in writing is to examine her poem as she speaks to us about grief and shedsContinue reading “Can you see and be the Lights?”