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Comforting Widowed Men & Those Who Love Them.

Bereavement Cruise to hear Knoll speak

Herb Knoll has joined the distinguished faculty that will address widowed men and women during the 2018 Bereavement Cruise.

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Posted 26 Jul 2017

Category Dating

Dear Abby Missed the Mark

July 26, 2017 Dear Abby, (Abigail Van Buren) the advice counselor has published a few recent articles that provided advice to widowers. After reading the columns, I determined it was time to introduce Dear Abby to the Widowers Support Network (WSN).  I then invited all WSN followers to comment on Dear Abby's reply to a widowed man. Once gathered, I then sent Dear Abby the collective responses of our followers along with a few of my own recommendations. Your thoughts and opinions are most welcome. (See "Read More or Comment Here)



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Posted 26 Sep 2015

Social Security Tidbits

Don’t be so fast to spend the first Social Security check deposited into your wife’s bank account following her passing, for if you were to do so, you may find that you have to pay it back.  WHY?  Because Social Security is paid in advance.  In order to be eligible to receive any amount paid, the payee must live for the entire period (month) the payment is intended to provide for.  Recommendation:   Contact your Social Security office following your spouse’s passing for details.  

And did you know widowers are eligible for a widower's Social Security payment if they are 60 or older.  Eligible widowers may want to subscribe for this payment and defer going on their own Social Security program.  Doing so will allow your personal plan to grow in the amount to be paid once you switch over in a year or two.  As with most things financial, be sure to visit with a qualified financial planner to assist  you.  It is well worth the investment, regardless of your financial standing.

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Posted 16 May 2015


After becoming a widower, most men find themselves performing many new tasks.  When doing so, it is always helpful to have the advantage of a few friends to offer some advice and money or time saving tips.  Here are just a few.

1.  For those widowers who are disabled veterans, you can receive 10% off on all purchases at Home Depot and Lowes.  You can also recevie 10% off on your AT&T cell phone bill.  Just inquire at the respective stores.
2.  All Veterans are eligible to receive final resting places for both the veteran and his deceased bride at any one of over one hundred National Cemeteries.  Free services include a plot, a grave stone and more. This can be a significant savings for thsoe who are interested.  Contact your local National Cemetery for details.
3.  To increase the amount of your income tax deductions, arrange to have any fees charged by your financial service provider on your qualified retirement accounts charged to your personal non-qualified accounts.  This advantage may not impact everyone so as always, be sure to check with your tax advisor for details.

Have a tip you wish to share with other widowers... please post it in the comment provided on the Blog.  See: "More"

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Posted 17 Mar 2015


Contributing widower Rutilo Flores of Illinois tells us how, in his country, men never entered the kitchen.  It was as they say... the custom.  You can image the reservations a widower may have if they were suddendly expected to prepare a casserole or perhaps even an omelette for their children or a guest.  Someone, quick... pass me a beer and two asprin. 

Take heart gents.   There are some great resources which can help with your culinary challenges including:
1.  Many Hopsice chapters have cooking classes.

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Posted 07 Feb 2015

Category Children

My daughter is having trouble adjusting to life without her mother

​It has been 19 months since my wife passed away yet my 14 year old daughter still has not recovered from her loss.  She locks herself in her bedroom for long periods of time.  She shares very little with me about her day let alone her life or her feelings.  

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Posted 20 Jan 2015

Category Grief/Dispare

Attention Widowers: IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO SHARE

​So go ahead and register with WidowersSupportNetwork.com​ and then log-on to WidowersSupportNetwork.com FORUM.  Read what others are writing.  Learn from their mistakes.  And when you're ready, share a story or two of  your own.  It's easy.  It's fun.  And communicating with other widowers can help those who are suffering heal...including you.  Besides...like everything associated with WidowersSupportNetwork.com, its FREE.

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