Category: Grief/Despair

  • Widower: Anger – Fight It or Accept It?

    Widower: Anger – Fight It or Accept It?

    Shortly after my wife’s death, I went to the mountains by myself for a week and screamed as loud and often as I wanted to. But now, 3 ½ years later, I no longer feel the intensity of anger I felt then. I soon forget how easy it was to cut myself off from others […]

  • Fear-some Firsts

    Fear-some Firsts

    How to get through those hard anniversaries… that horrible first year I called them the “fierce-some firsts”:  First Valentine’s Day.  First Thanksgiving. First Christmas. First birthday (his). My birthday First birthday (the children’s). First “day we met”. First wedding anniversary. First angle-versary (anniversary of death). During that first year, as these “firsts” approached, I’d count […]

  • Widower: Avoiding Downward Spirals

    Widower: Avoiding Downward Spirals

    Grief can pummel you physically, emotionally, and mentally in ways that make you feel as if you will never be able to live a normal life again. The physical pain can drive you to your knees. At times you may just sit on the stairs and sob. Mentally, you can find yourself incapable of processing […]

  • Widower: Grieving Can Weaken or Strengthen Your Family

    Widower: Grieving Can Weaken or Strengthen Your Family

    As I sank into deep grieving after my wife’s death, I became increasingly concerned about my sanity and ability to make sound decisions. At times the world around me seemed surreal, my short and long term memory became suspect, and I often just wanted to shut the door on everyone and just hide in my […]

  • What are you going to be doing on New Year’s Eve?

    What are you going to be doing on New Year’s Eve?

    WSN-MO: The Perfect Catch  WSN-MO Dating and Relationship Coach, Christine Baumgartner asks…  What are you going to be doing on New Year’s Eve?  I’ve been talking about the holiday season and widowhood for the past couple weeks. In those articles, I haven’t included the New Year’s celebration because it often impacts people differently than the […]

  • Proactive steps to help get you through the holidays

    Proactive steps to help get you through the holidays

    Proactive Steps to help get you through the holidays Last week I talked about the holiday season and widowhood: About the widower who says with tears in his eyes, “Christmas was always her thing”.  About the grieving widow who tells me “he was such a big part of our family’s Hanukkah traditions”. Depending on how […]

  • Grieving and Thanksgiving

    Grieving and Thanksgiving

    With the approach of Thanksgiving, I can’t help but think back to Thanksgiving 2012, my very first holiday following my husband’s sudden death. The grief fog was still very thick. Numbness created a comforting cushion around my body and emotions.  My husband had died in August. By the time November arrived, the loving family and […]

  • Grief Recovery Programs Need to Include Action Plans

    Grief Recovery Programs Need to Include Action Plans

     Herb Knoll Author of the New Book, The Widower’s Journey http://www.WidowersSupportNetwork.com It’s no wonder so many people fail to complete grief counseling sessions that take place over a period of several weeks, with many attendees opting to bail out of such programs after just a week or two.  Why? I believe one of the reasons […]

  • An Excerpt from The Widower’s Journey: Appendix III – Support From Pets

    An Excerpt from The Widower’s Journey: Appendix III – Support From Pets

    When considering what actions widowed men can take in hopes of accelerating their healing, they may only have to reach down to the pet seated beside them. I witnessed the power of pets often during Michelle’s illness, especially during the final hours of her life when her son Jacques carried each of Michelle’s three golden […]

  • Potential and Change

    Potential and Change

    (24-hours before Suzanne dies) Dear future Jeff,  I want you to know a few things. After Suzanne dies, you will feel like there is little potential of anything ever making your life any better. Did you know that you will be scared, hurting, very much alone (even surrounded by friends and family), completely lost and […]