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YOU ARE THE BOSS NOW!
Remember when you were young, married, and full of misconceptions about your life and marriage? Previously, in our more male-dominated society, you might have believed that as the husband, you were the “boss” in the family! Ha…Ha! Many of us eventually found what a joke that belief was! We often learned that making solo decisions…
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What Can Help Me to Heal?
We have heard it said by many experts there is no correct path on how to deal with grief. Every person’s journey is different, and the roads we travel will be filled with twists and turns. As our founder Herb Knoll has stated many times sitting on the couch will never help us to heal.…
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Learn to Live in Joy, Not the Pain and Sadness.
Someone recently asked me: “What’s the most difficult part of losing your spouse”? I said: “How much time do you have”? as my answer will be long. In the interest of brevity, however, I said after the early dark days, weeks, and months, I started to see some signs of hope. I put into place…
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Grief cannot be fixed, but you can adapt to a new way of living.
I had the pleasure of speaking to a grief support group in New York City just before Christmas, and I offered them some ways to deal with grief during the holidays. Several of the participants in the group asked me if grief ever goes away. I used the sage words offered by the late Kennedy…
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Should I Start Dating?
On her last conscious day, my wife advised me not to get involved with another woman until she had been gone a year. A little more than a year after my wife died, I began dating a woman whom I thought I might marry. I had known her for years, she was attractive, and we…
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The Fifth Christmas
My late wife Joyce has been gone for five Christmas seasons. Christmas 2018 found us fighting the effects of a round of platinum based chemo. If you’ve had platinum based chemo in your life, you know what I’m talking about. This picture was taken Christmas Day 2018… She wore masks before they were in fashion.…
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Moving forward, but remember to glance back.
In another week, we will start another year. 2024 is just around the corner. The holidays will be over, and it’s time to focus on the opportunities of a new year. My mantra when I entered the world of grief has always been to keep moving forward and to know I can’t stop the birds…
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Unmasked Masculinity: Embracing Grief as Strength
In the unforgiving landscape of grief, the notion of masculinity often takes a beating. Society has long dictated that to be a man means suppressing emotions, concealing pain, and presenting an unyielding facade. But true masculinity, in my opinion, is found in the raw, unfiltered expression of emotions, in the display of wounds, and in…
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It’s the Most Wonderful Time of the Year unless you are Dealing with Loss
Step into your car, turn the radio on, and I almost guarantee every station is playing holiday music. Walk into a grocery store, a shopping mall, Home Depot, fast food places, and most banks or even the post office, and you will hear holiday songs filling the air. I chose the Andy Williams song for…
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Traveling Alone
Question #10: I am thinking about traveling again, but by myself now. This is kind of scary. What tips can you give me? If traveling has been part of your life, either for business or pleasure, it may be best to continue. If you abruptly stop traveling, it may be depressing to you and alarming…
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